Self-esteem is how we humans value ourselves, both physically and in terms of personality, abilities and skills.
It is a very necessary element in people’s lives, because their happiness and personal fulfillment depend on it. In this sense, a good level of self-esteem is necessary to realize oneself as a person and to achieve one of our vital objectives.
Although the most effective way to deal with self-esteem issues is to go to psychotherapy, there are some strategies and routines that can be applied every day by yourself and that help us raise the level of self-esteem and feel better about yourself.
What are the main strategies to increase self-esteem?
Below is a summary of the keys that we can follow to improve our self-esteem.
1. Avoid constant comparisons
One of the first strategies we can put into practice to improve our self-esteem is to avoid always comparing ourselves to others, whether in our immediate environment (such as friends, family or colleagues) or with strangers.
Whenever we compare ourselves to someone else who can do better in life, we may end up feeling bad about what we have, which is why in general it’s much better to focus on self-improvement goals, i.e. the important thing is to surpass yourself.
2. Be realistic with yourself
Having a vision of oneself adjusted to reality is one of the best ways to acquire good self-esteem, and this applies both to the physical image and to the qualities, aptitudes or abilities that one possesses. That’s why it’s good that we often question what we think we know about ourselves.
Some people with low self-esteem tend to be too hard on themselves, overestimating what they see as negative aspects about themselves or their real flaws, and ignoring all the positives they have. For example, they assume that their achievements are due to luck or the help of others, and that failures are the sole responsibility of each person.
The best way to have a high level of self-esteem is to accept who we really are without generating an overly negative image of ourselves or nor by judging too harshly the things we need to improve.
3. Healthy lifestyle habits
Healthy lifestyle habits are essential for a healthy lifestyle, which also has a very strong effect on one’s level of self-esteem. When you feel physically well, it is easier to have a constructive vision of ourselves and our abilities.
Exercising frequently, maintaining a healthy and balanced diet, having healthy sleeping habits, or keeping our mind busy with intellectually demanding activities are some of the habits we can adopt to be better with ourselves and improve self-esteem.
4. Get out of your comfort zone
Some people tend to live their lives without taking risks, protecting themselves from any activity or event that could test them, for fear of failing or highlighting a shortcoming of their own, real or imagined.
In order to improve as a person and to flourish on a daily basis, it is important that we take reasonable risks and test our abilities no matter what others say.
In this way, we are likely to end up overcoming our fears and complexes, and discovering qualities within ourselves that we did not know we had.
5. Avoid labels
Putting irremovable labels on both ourselves and the people around us is an oversimplified view of reality, because people are constantly evolving and changing.
It means having thoughts about yourself such as “I’m dumb, I’m clumsy, or I’m useless,” because having difficulty in certain areas of work or academic performance doesn’t mean the person is that way permanently.
This is why it is important to value people and ourselves in a deeper and more holistic way, taking into account all aspects of their personality.
6. Be proactive
The proactive attitude is one of the most beneficial drivers of improving self-esteem for anyone, regardless of job and socio-economic status.
We humans live happily when we have goals to achieve and as long as it doesn’t come at the expense of harming another person, Having an interest in achieving them is a good way to achieve higher self-esteem. when you achieve these goals.
7. Value what you have
Being grateful in life with people who are good to us and valuing how good we are in their everyday life is one of the best strategies we can follow to be better with ourselves and improve our self-esteem. self.
In addition to this, it is also strongly recommended to value the material goods of life less and focus on what really makes sense to yousuch as love for our loved ones, friendship, loyalty and happiness in general.
8. Don’t be obsessed
Some people become too obsessed with the goals they set for themselves throughout their life, whether personal or professional, and when they don’t, they become frustrated and feel bad.
To prevent this from happening, it is recommended not basing our self-esteem solely on a professional, knowledge or social field or area. This means that if we are not getting our dream job but have been lucky in love and relationships, we need to value the positive we have and look to the future.
9. Cultivate rich and healthy interpersonal relationships
Having an active social life with healthy social and emotional relationships is one of the best ways to achieve a good level of self-esteem in our lives.
That’s why we must always remember take care of our friends, our family and also our partners.
10. Be yourself
Finally, it should be noted that another strategy we can follow to be better with ourselves is to always be honest and take action. according to our personal principles and values.
Some people have a tendency to pretend when they are in society, to let go of who they really are and to let go of their personal principles; it usually causes them discomfort and can negatively affect their self-esteem.
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