Have you lost your desire for sex for a long time and don’t know what could have happened? In this article we will explore emotional causes that may be the triggers for your low libidoAnd we will talk about the concepts through which the solution to this problem.
Hypocative sexual desire as a problem
Hypoactive sexual desire is the absence of erotic fantasies and motivation to experience sex, Which presents itself persistently and permanently, leading to difficulties in already uncomfortable relationships.
The permanence and persistence of variables are essential in this definition. Sexuality and desire are cyclical, it is not the same thing every day; but, if you notice as if your desire switch has been off for some time and it causes you discomfort both personally and with your partner, I tell you what can be the causes and some ideas to increase the wish .
Causes of low sexual desire
When we talk about lack of desire it is important to exclude organic factors such as chronic diseases and hormonal problems. In this article, I will focus on psycho-relational factors.
1. Problems in the relationship
When a couple goes through a bad streak, it is common for the sexual desire of at least one of the couple to decrease. For desire to be present, one must feel at ease; factors such as feeling undervalued in the relationship, frequent discussions, or feeling like you have fallen into a routine can affect at the level of desire.
Exploring conflicts in the relationship, such as lack of communication, will help find ways to reactivate this desire. In these cases, the desire can be nurtured both on a personal level and as a couple. It is important not to put pressure on the other person, but to initiate a new dynamic of seduction both with yourself and your partner.
2. Stress and anxiety
Stress and anxiety trigger “alert mode” and emotional and physiological responses are triggered to combat this “stressor”. When this happens, one of the aspects that is affected before is sexual function.
Think what would happen if you had a lion in front of you, all of these unrelated aspects of survival are “blocked” until the threat is over. To this day, although the stressors are different, our anxiety response mechanisms remain the same. Therefore, when you are going through a time of uncertainty, a lot of stress, or if you have anxiety, the desire for sex is suppressed.
3. Under sexual desire derived from other sexual dysfunctions
Sexual dysfunctions such as premature ejaculation, vaginismus or anorgasmia often cause discomfort.. If these problems persist over time, an avoidance response is activated. The person begins to avoid sex and feels less and less desire.
If this is the case, it is very helpful to work with a professional sexual dysfunction professional in order to restore desire.
How to reactivate desire?
There are many ways to reactivate desire. Once we know what causes the lack of desire, it will be easier to design a plan that works for you. However, there are a number of central issues:
A lot of people don’t know what their body looks like and how it works. It also allows them to be present certain taboos or preconceived ideas that reduce the way we experience sexuality.
Explore fantasies and needs
Knowing what things stimulate you and make you cum, not only in sex but in your life in general, reconnect with feelings of pleasure and enjoyment this is a good way to invoke desire.
Novelty and curiosity
Desire feeds on it, how can you integrate these elements into your life?
Remember, desire calls for desireIt’s about listening to yourself and allowing yourself to explore what makes you feel good.
On the other hand, professional help through sexology services is effective in overcoming this type of problem in all its forms, in the medium and long term. If you think you need psychotherapeutic help for this task, please contact me.