A key to our personality: self-esteem

When talking about self-esteem as a fundamental component of personal growth and happiness, it is necessary to explain what it is and who or what it feeds for its construction. Therefore, we will see here the most important aspects of self-esteem that impact on personality.

    The link between personality and self-esteem

    We will start by explaining what self-esteem is the result of the evaluation we make of ourselves by perceiving ourselves in relation to others and at the same time, it is how we interpret how others value us. These aspects determine how “we feel” about ourselves and our characteristics.

    It is important to explain that self-esteem grows as it is influenced by self-concept, (Which becomes what we think of ourselves) and temperament, which is the intensity with which we react to and use moods and emotions.

    Self-esteem, at the behavioral level, has three areas that we will describe through the following questions:

    • What are we feeling? physiological zone
    • What do we think? cognitive zone
    • What do we do? engine area

    Dimensions of self-esteem

    In turn, self-esteem has different dimensions, among which:

    1. Familiar

    Refers to the responses that the family group sends back to the child, The responses by which the child is perceived as part of the family. We illustrate this dimension from a negative answer, knowing that in another context, it can be positive; “Arturo (3 years old), why don’t you just watch the movie like your sister (8 years old)?” Arthur just wants to move, but in the end he ends up playing the next one; “I am not able to stand still like my sister, I am bad because I move and therefore I am the bad guy in the house.

    2. Affective

    In line with the previous example, we will say that from this dimension to the revolting valuation, he considers himself less loved than his sister. The affective dimension responds to what we look like and how we define our personality traits.

    3. Physics

    suppose value everything related to the body and its skills. If Arturo looks tall, because he is taller than his teammates, he can see his height as a force for playing basketball.

    4. Social

    He responds to this if we feel loved by the other, this feeling gives us the idea of ​​belonging to a group and in turn allows us to meet the different demands of the social environment.

    5. Academic

    It is about whether or not we feel capable of accomplishing a task. It should be noted that this feeling is based on our ability to be good or bad students.

    Differences between high and low self-esteem

    All of these dimensions constitute the interpretation that will give rise to what we call self-esteem, which can be high or low; the distinction we will discuss below.

    Why is it important to make a high or low value interpretation of our self-esteem, or that of our children, students, etc.? because when self-esteem is high, positive self-esteem translates into the ability to cope with different situations in the following ways:

    • Thoughts have a positive interpretation, seeing someone capable of performing challenges, tasks, etc.
    • Thoughts are optimistic, validating the competence to do what is proposed.
    • You have confidence in yourself.
    • The activities are carried out autonomously and on their own initiative.
    • Being cooperative, they develop the skills necessary to promote socialization.
    • They recognize and accept errors and mistakes, being able to find a solution.
    • The sense of pride in their efforts goes beyond results or achievements and so they don’t give up when it comes to pursuing their goals.

    All of these high self-esteem skills allow us to deal with new or stressful situations. and overcome them by finding creative solutions before problems arise.

    however, What happens when self-esteem is low? Low self-esteem is manifested by the following typical characteristics of people with it:

    • Fear of failure or error.
    • They do not trust their abilities, they are little valued.
    • Thoughts are negative, complaints and criticism.
    • They are inhibited and not sociable.
    • Faced with new challenges, they block and abandon the creative search for a solution.
    • When they can’t find anything to motivate them, they tend to be sad.


    It can be considered, because of the compression of the implications of low self-esteem, that Fostering high self-esteem is essential for personal growth as well as for their training. In fact, in children and adolescents, self-esteem directly influences their learning, interpersonal relationships and self-image.

    According to statistics, in Spain 2% of the child population suffers from depression, which is directly related to self-esteem. Therefore, it is necessary to create a space for training and guidance for children, adolescents and adults in order to build secure self-esteem, feel valued and capable and this ultimately results in a happy person.

    Thus, self-esteem cuts across all areas of well-being and affects the remission or maintenance of possible very common psychological problems. Knowing how to cultivate a good self-concept not only helps to engage in psychotherapy treatment; moreover, it facilitates the development of new and exciting lifestyles.

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