Causes of low self-esteem and complexes with the body in the summer

One of the most striking curiosities of the human mind is that although human beings tend to think that we have an individual essence and a very well-defined self-identity, in reality self-esteem and perception that we have of ourselves are constantly changing. ; it is very much influenced by what happens to us throughout life. In other words, what happens around us influences our identity and the way we see ourselves as much or more than internal psychological processes.

Moreover, these transformations must not take long to occur. Sometimes it’s a matter of days, and even though it happens very quickly, it’s common that we don’t notice the change in the way we see and value ourselves. Therefore, Something as normal as the arrival of summer can damage our self-esteempartly because of what is happening in the environment with which we constantly interact: announcements of young and happy people on paradisiacal beaches, social pressure in the face of fashions that expose several parts of the body at once, expectations about ” summer romances”, etc. .

In these cases, it often happens that many people assume that how they feel when they see themselves in the mirror at that moment is what really defines their identity, and other stations have limited themselves to not not thinking about what they really are, hiding it under ropa layers Without realizing that summer (and all the social dynamics around these months) is not an observatory that allows us to see ourselves in a more objective than any other season of the year.

Thus, in this article, we will discuss the question of how the overexposure we get in the summer can exacerbate insecurities with our physiqueaffect the image we have of ourselves and develop an image of anxiety.

Why does the arrival of summer make us look different?

To understand how summer predisposes us to a different relationship with our own body, we must first understand what self-esteem is. It’s basically the way we have learned to perceive and value ourselves.

Like all human beings without serious neurological developmental problems, we become able to think about the concept of “I” and use it constantly every day (because all the actions we perform daily and everything that registers our senses are linked to this idea of ​​”I”, are things that we do or that happen to us), this learning is constant and takes place all over the world, voluntarily or involuntarily. Thus, all conscious people have self-esteem , because they cannot ignore each other.

However, what we learn about ourselves is always tied to a strong emotional charge. It is not a question of internalizing objective information on who we are, nor data on the “I” reducible to words and figures. What we know about ourselves does not leave us indifferentit always makes us feel a certain way, and it has a great ability to alter our mood.

Precisely because this self-conception is one of the most important for survival, you always have to be very sensitive to what you are experiencing as you interact with the environment to try to fit in. adapt… even if it has its good and bad sides. For example, it often makes us not ask ourselves what makes a situation make us feel bad about ourselves; we simply focus on these feelings and emotions and assume that they reflect how we react to our identity.

This is often the case with the arrival of summer: society transforms in a matter of weeks, and a number of cultural elements and expectations are activated on what we are supposed to aspire to do during these months, and what type of people we should aspire to be like. It causes us, without realizing it, to take on a different perspective when we perceive and value ourselves, and we take these feelings for granted without critically analyzing why summer affects our self-esteem in this way.

It’s easier accept as revealed truth this feeling of being a failed project in person when you see yourself in the mirrortrying to break down why we feel this way and why we place such value on how we feel in this particular situation.

This is how insecurities with our bodies can intensify in the summer

But what are the specific ways in which the lizard affects our self-esteem and our predisposition to suffer from anxiety or anxiety problems in the mirror? The truth is that there are hundreds of factors that can come into play depending on the person, but some are more relevant than others. The main ones are usually the following.

1. Intensified worship of body image

We humans are highly dependent on the sense of sight, and advances in new audio-visual and internet-related technologies, coupled with the culture of immediacy they have promoted, mean we have pushed to its ultimate consequences the maxim “a picture is worth a thousand words. “

This it encourages us to see body image as a reflection of our identity, so it is very easy that we become automatically and semi-unconsciously obsessed with the little details of our body that we consider imperfections because they do not correspond to the canons of beauty. That is to say, if image worship does not speak ill of ourselves, it creates the conditions for us to examine ourselves until we find the reasons why we we feel bad in our body.

2. Social pressure fueled by overexposure on social media

For many people, constantly posting pictures of their bodies on their social media is almost a must.. Given this, the arrival of summer exploits its own insecurities, especially since doing so without posting photos in swimsuits or very summery clothes can be seen almost as an eccentricity or a sign that there is no beautiful body.

3. Gender roles and the sexualization of the female body

It’s no secret that women are under a lot of pressure to take care of themselves and still be attractive. To this must be added that in their case, the value of oneself as a person is much more closely linked to the value that one has as a sexually desirable body.

4. Expectations of the group related to the feeling of belonging to the group

Pressure can also be a major factor in not excluding yourself from a group of friends for not wanting to participate in activities that involve wearing lighter clothes or a bathing suit. Which means not doing so can be seen as a problem, something that needs to be justifiedsomething that brings out the taboo subject of insecurities with one’s own body and low self-esteem.

5. Culture of doing extreme diets

Finally, it should be noted that for many people the arrival of summer goes hand in hand with the need to follow diets which, although sold as a strategy to have a healthy body, are in actually a pump of stress and anxiety due to the tight control over the calories ingested and the types of foods to avoid they offer (or they may even be directly bad for physical health because they lead to malnutrition). This obsession with avoiding inappropriate meals and the health problems they promote is elements that predispose to psychological complications such as generalized anxiety, insomnia, psychological ruminations, etc.

Are you looking for psychological help to boost your self-esteem?

If you wish to have psychotherapeutic support to overcome your complexes and insecurities with professional help, I invite you to contact me to schedule a first session.

My name is Paloma Rey and I am a general health psychologist for the adult and child-young population; I can assist you in person or through online video call therapy.

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