the emotional block it is a psychological barrier that we impose on ourselves and that prevents us from being able to discern clearly in certain aspects of life.
We will all notice these types of psychological blockages at some point in our lives. When they do occur, we feel like a total loss of control over the situation and over ourselves. We have remained paralyzed, insensitive to the context in which we live. Our emotions distract us and we don’t let go. In today’s article we will try to find out what are the causes, symptoms and keys to understand this phenomenon.
Discover and control emotional blockages
In addition, emotional blockages they have the ability to prevent us from moving forward in achieving certain goals in our lives. We may be able to develop our lives normally, but at some point in life we may suffer from a blockage. Some people, for example, are highly skilled in the workplace, and yet when it comes to building stable romantic relationships, they get bogged down and don’t develop as they would like.
Thus, others can develop well in the sentimental field and it is exactly the opposite which occurs in the workplace: they fail to find a job which satisfies them. Or apparently everything is fine with them in the office, but they don’t show up because they are really insecure. This causes them to show a mask in front of others in order to feel more secure, thus preventing them from being themselves, as if they are somehow emotionally restricted.
Some examples of emotional blockage
There are several signs and signals that can alert us that someone is suffering from an emotional blockage..
For example, not wanting to act out of fear of failure, not participating in events, being afraid of making mistakes, fear of being rejected or not accepted, shyness or shame, lack of motivation, pessimism and inability to see solutions to an obstacle, envy, jealousy, judging others superficially without daring to go deeper into and understand how they are.
Fear and insecurity, as well as feeling inferior to others, are the most common causes of emotional blockage. currently the economic and social situation predisposes us more to suffer this type of blockade.
This is because the collective perception of the negative reality around us subconsciously influences us as individuals who are part of a whole, so we could talk about there is a negative social atmosphere, in which certain values such as competitiveness and pragmatism prevail. These values can conflict with the need we all have to feel included, loved and supported in the social group. In other words, when we don’t find a social group where we feel represented and identified, we tend to experience identity crises which can lead to feelings of low self-confidence.
How can we remove the emotional block?
If our emotions are positive, joy, creativity, motivation and spontaneity arise. For example, suppose we have been out of work for a while, get quoted for interviews, and still get the same negative answer. This can lead us to believe that it is no longer worth the trouble to travel. So, without realizing it, we ourselves are mentally predisposed to emotional blockages that prevent us from finding a solution to this situation. It is a vicious circle that is difficult to get out of.
Likewise, in our daily thoughts of futility and anguish come to us, such as: “why am I leaving …?”, “I know they are not going to hire me”, “there a more qualified candidates ”,“ they will notice that I am nervous ”,“ with the time that I am unemployed and the age that I am ”,“ I am no longer fit ”,“ I will fail ”).
Fight negative thinking
This kind of pessimistic thinking blocks us in such a way that then, at the time of the interview, what we convey non-verbally is perceived unconsciously by the interviewer. And if what you’re conveying is negativity … we won’t be too desirable a candidate.
If you are not convincing with yourself, you are constantly hesitating, you think you have no chance, and so on, you are doomed to remain in this situation always. To remove the block, you have to acquire a positive perspective on realitySo if you are feeling good emotionally there will be no blockages and you will be able to express yourself more fluently. Try to think of things that evoke positive emotions.
Although you may feel uncomfortable at first, try to think positively, for example: “I am a very worthy person”, “I believe in myself”, “if they do not choose me, I will have learned of this experience facing the next interview “.. This way you will be predisposing that in your brain new structures are created that naturally direct your thoughtsThus, what we believe mentally is transmitted in the image that we give to ourselves.
Dismantling Murphy’s Law: Bad Luck Doesn’t Exist
“Murphy’s Law” says, “If anything can go wrong, it will go wrong,” so if the toast always falls on the butter side on the floor, we are certainly unlucky. The same thing happens if we extrapolate that with an emotional block, for example when we think, ‘they never catch me, I’m sure the same will happen in this interview’.
But nothing could be further from the truth. Murphy’s Law, the only thing that comes to my mind is “if anything can happen, it will”. If we really feel empowered to make something happen, the chances of that happening will surprisingly increase.
Reflection on blockages
There is a theory in quantum physics called “Schrödinger’s cat”. This suggests that at the particle physics level, a cat in a box with a poison capsule that can be broken at any time will be alive and dead at the same time. This also goes for emotional blockage, if fear takes hold of us we will never know if we have achieved what we had in mind. So if we don’t have the courage to open the box, we’ll get stuck.
When we truly believe that we are capable and confident in ourselves, we impart an aura of confidence that others still intuitively perceive without knowing it. Often times, something attracts us from another person and it is possible that it is this security within ourselves, so that you need to take care of your thoughts and not let negative thoughts hold you back.
- Courtesy of Aragon, L. (1999). Self-love. Understanding and practice. St. Paul.
- Mc Clelland, D and Atkinson J. (1985). Motivation and emotion. Mc Graw Hill.