If the first wave of coronavirus infections seems to have already passed, the impact it has generated in our society is still very active, and it seems that it will accompany us for several months.
In fact, sadly, there are a lot of people still absorbing the emotional blow this season of contagion, business closings and death has inflicted.
In the following lines we will focus on the latter, to see what it means to go through. a period of psychological mourning for the death of a loved one during the COVID-19 crisis.
The effects of psychological grief from the coronavirus
Let’s start with the basics: what is psychological grief? This is a psychological process in which emotional disruption occurs due to a loss situation something or someone important to us.
The classic form of grief is the loss of a loved one, such as a family member, friend or pet, but in reality it can also appear after moving to another country suffering from an illness. serious consequences, the loss of a business, etc.
Psychological grief can therefore take many different forms and it would be absurd to try to categorize them all precisely because each case is unique, in a sense. However, there are reasons to understand that mourning in the context of the coronavirus pandemic has a number of peculiarities which makes them worthy of comment.
First, due to security measures taken to prevent contagion, social distancing has been strictly enforced, including cases of patients admitted to hospitals. This meant that many people had to stay away from loved ones when they passed away.
In addition, many funeral ceremonies had to be postponed so that the grieving processes of many people were affected by this fact which makes the closing difficult.
Second, those who have lost a loved one they see how this reality blends into a complex situation marked by uncertainty and in which many are affected by the onset of another economic crisis. In many cases, bereavement is associated with an additional source of stress and anxiety.
What to do?
These are guidelines to follow that you can consider to ease your grieving process if you have lost a loved one during the coronavirus crisis.
1. Don’t try to block negative thoughts
Trying to stay away from our awareness of thoughts that cause us emotional pain is a mistake, because it makes us obsessed with them, it gives them more power.
2. Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness is a set of practices that promote the emergence of a psychological state known as mindfulness, which is very useful for managing stress and preventing intrusive thoughts that generate discomfort.
3. Express yourself
Don’t be afraid to show your emotionsSeeking support from people you feel close to is a positive thing to sort out ideas and release tension.
4. Create your own farewell ceremonies
You don’t have to rely on conventional funeral ceremonies to say goodbye to loved ones.
In fact, saying goodbye your way is equally or more meaningful than a funeral attended by dozens of people. No luxuries or large aesthetic elements are needed; create your own symbolic event based on what connected you to that person.
5. make sure you get enough rest
People who go through a psychological grieving process often feel that they are not doing anything productive, whether through lack of motivation or fatigue.
If this is your case, don’t be fooled; you still need to get as much or more sleep than in normal situations. Set a time for going to bed and be sure to follow this protocol.
6. Don’t avoid remembering your moments with this person.
Focusing on memories of past experiences with the deceased is not a bad thing; in fact, it helps shape grief. Of course, focus mainly on positive experiences, either because you are happy or because you think they have brought you something good.
Are you looking for psychotherapeutic support?
If you are going through difficult times as a result of a difficult grieving process and you feel you need professional support, you can contact us. Fr Psychology of Cribecca we have a team of psychologists trained to care for patients of all ages and with extensive experience in therapeutic processes when dealing with emotional problems; we can help you both in person at our center located in Seville and through online video call therapy. To see more information about Cribecca Psicologia, visit this page.
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