This has happened to all of us before: we spent hours ruminating our thoughts. Something is worrying us and worry, fear and even anxiety don’t get out of our minds (And the rest of our body).
Ruminating on negative or unpleasant thoughts is one of the main symptoms of depression and anxiety or fear, but not only is it a clinical situation, but it is also common in humans without disorders. when we experience some kind of unpleasant fact. (emotional breakdowns, disappointments, changes at work, financial difficulties, fear of what others will think, etc.).
Why is this happening to us? What is it leading you to? Do you have a solution?
We tend to think of ourselves as mental beings, who reason and make logical decisions, but in reality we are emotional beings. Every second of the day we experience emotions and they influence us both in our mood and in our actions, decisions, interpretations, communication, relationships, etc.
We’re not really that rational, but imperfectly rational. Ruminating on thoughts is primarily a consequence of the emotional state we live in: fear, anxiety, distress, and insecurity.
In recent years, I have accompanied as a psychologist and coached people from 13 different countries in their personal change processes (with an emphasis on personal and professional life). Throughout this trajectory, I have found that whenever there has been an impact situation that has shifted our foundations and our personal beliefs, you get used to ruminating thoughts, very recurring, negative and exhausting. Either way, whatever your personal situation, you have to work with the emotional basis that is leading you to that situation.
If you want to know how it comes to thinking so much and especially how to solve it, I leave here a video where I explain in more detail (the article continues below).
What to do to stop brooding?
Ruminating on your thoughts is not only a mental activity, but above all an emotional activity.. We feel fear, insecurity and anxiety because we interpret the world as dangerous because of past experience.
Ruminate thoughts his goal is to always be vigilant and to try to find out how to protect himself. However, this protection or over-protection is not functional, but a way of adapting to what happened to you which ended up being the biggest problem.
There are two key aspects to focusing on the problem and stopping thinking about negative and recurring thoughts: work with the emotional base that provokes them and find different actions totally incompatible with rumination.
When we think or think too much about what worries us or scares us, such as with insomnia, it happens because in a way we want it and find it useful. We ruminate because we need it, because it’s the only way we think we can protect ourselves.
Ruminating is an activity that accompanies an activity that makes it possible. You can ruminate while walking, running, watching social media, but it is not possible to ruminate if at the same time you keep your concentration in your breathing, do an activity that keeps your attention active (an activity that requires details) or take action with a focus on your own well-being. Having a concrete, measurable and observable action plan is absolutely essential to get the change you need.
If you want to take this step, on empoderamientohumano.com you have the opportunity to take the first steps in your personal change process that will lead you to understand and manage your emotions, as well as to design a specific action plan that will lead you towards your change and your learning and most importantly stay with you forever (since they mainly learn about you). The key factor in this case is having an expert professional company.
The most important aspect, however, is learn to have the emotions on your side rather than against you. By learning to understand and deal with your emotions, you come to live based on acceptance, peace, trust and openness, rather than being so conditioned by fear, anxiety, frustration, anger. or insecurity.
Ruminating is something that has happened to all of us and we know how exhausting it is. Don’t let this turn into an exhausting habit that diminishes your well-being. The change you need is only possible if you make it happen.