Hyper-needs and their consequences in everyday life

Poor management of the responsibilities and goals we set for ourselves on a daily basis is a constant source of discomfort for many people.

However, sometimes you fall into the trap of not only trying to keep up with an unbearable pace of work, but also of considering that always being with water on your shoulders and nerves on the edge is part of normalcy, of what must happen if or if.

In this article we will talk about that, hyperexpressions, and how these have a psychological impact on our daily life.

    What are hyperequisites?

    Hyper-demands are a model of behavior by which we tend to demand of ourselves a pace of work and performance that we can barely achieve, Or that we have not directly reached.

    Therefore, hyperexcitability can give way to harmful lifestyle habits both physically and mentally.

    Possible causes

    These are the main causes from which hyperextension can arise with oneself.

    1. Perfectionism

    Often, the excess of self-demand is not so much in the amount of work to be done as in the quality of the results to be obtained.. In these cases, the main driver of this pattern of behavior is related to poorly managed perfectionism that is counterproductive for the person.

    On the other hand, perfectionism can be of two types, and both cases can produce problems if they become the center of the life of the person who develops them.

    1.1. perfectionist efforts

    Perfectionist efforts are present in those individuals who try to approach an ideal through their work, regardless of what others are doing. For example, an artist who tries to outdo himself and create the most important work of his career will likely be moved by this kind of perfectionism.

    1.2. perfectionist concerns

    Perfectionist concerns are present in those who try to do a little in the best possible way to meet the expectations of others i.e. through outside pressure. An example of this would be a skater who is focused on not being disqualified from a championship for not disappointing her family.

    2. Pressures at work

    We must not forget that in countries like Spain the labor market is very competitive and the threat of being unemployed and taking a long time to find another job is very real. This means that many people do not find a job that satisfies them, because in order not to lose added value they have to sacrifice a lot and work hard. Some people even work overtime without anyone asking for it, just for fear of losing their income..

    3. Family burdens

    On the other hand, there are many people who do not give enough to do the housework and raise the children, yet they refuse to ask for help.

    It is a type of hyperextension more common in womenBecause historically the role of women has been linked to home care, which leads some of them to feel ashamed and guilty about not giving the best of themselves and sacrifice oneself for others.

    Its impact on the quality of life

    These are the different ways in which hyperequisites affect the well-being of people.

    1. Lack of sound

    Lack of sleep is one of the phenomena in which hyperextension is first noticed. People who try to move forward with a lot of responsibilities tend to believe that either sleeping is a waste of time, not being able to fall asleep at the right time, or sleeping soundly.

      2. Stress and anxiety

      On the other hand, hyperextension goes hand in hand with a strong activation of the nervous system, that is to say always be vigilant. This causes the onset of anxiety-like disorders and relatively frequent stress attacks.

      3. Higher risk of falling into drug addiction

      People facing a heavy workload on a daily basis they are more likely to develop addictions. It is a measure to cope with the discomfort which gives them some relief in the short term, but obviously hurts them a lot in the medium and long term. However, in the face of anxiety and stress, the long-term view loses its importance.

      4. Rumination

      Ruminating is the tendency to change things, especially thoughts related to tasks to be done and goals to be achieved, as these they generate anxiety and stress, so they draw attention to themselves.

      Are you looking for professional support in the face of hyperextension?

      If you feel that you tend to overload yourself with overly ambitious responsibilities and goals and feel that you need professional support, I suggest you contact me. I am a psychologist specializing in the cognitive-behavioral intervention model and I have many years of experience in helping individuals and businesses. To see more information about me, as well as my contact details, go to this page.

      Bibliographical references:

      • Flett, GL; Hewitt, PL (2002). Perfectionism. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.
      • Gäde, JC; Schermelleh-Engel, K. and Klein, AG (2017). Detach the Common Variation of Perfectionist Efforts and Perfectionist Concerns: A Two-Factor Model of Perfectionism. Front Psychol., 8: 160.
      • Lizmore, MR Dunn, JGJ; Dunn, JC (2017). Perfectionist efforts, perfectionist concerns and reactions to personal misconduct in intercollegiate athletes. Psychology of sport and exercise, 33: PP. 75 – 84.

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