I do not like my beauty: how to manage this complex?

Body image is a concept that is formed as we evolve, And is unique to each individual. It has a lot to do with our lived experiences, the culture we live in, the parenting models, the role models we have had, etc.

It is a subjective thing, and it is made up of various aspects such as perception, that is, the way we see ourselves; cognition, in this case composed of thoughts related to this image; the affective aspects, that is to say the feelings and emotions that it arouses in us and the appreciation that we give to it; and finally the behavioral aspects, where the actions or behaviors that we carry out resulting from this perception and the emotions which are associated with it are located.

    The complexes with their own thinness

    When a person is excessively thin, it is possible that their body image has a negative connotation and therefore arouses unpleasant emotions in that person.. His daily life changes and little by little all the actions revolve around this image: avoid situations or people, dress in a certain way to disguise annoying features, check if a certain part of the body is observed especially, perform ritual mental or physical actions to gain confidence, etc.

    But all of this can be given even if objectively that person is not below normal weight and therefore not an objective question if it is not the result of this distortion of body image or as a result of rigid (or unrealistic) expectations of “how I would like to be”.

    The fact that thinness in itself is classified as a positive quality, an aspect desired by many, sometimes makes it especially difficult for the person who is not comfortable with their body for this reason, openly acknowledging it and expressing it out of fear of being judged or even of not wanting to offend others.

    What to do?

    Below we will give you the keys to face this complex and achieve well-being in relation to your body image.

    1. Realize the implications of your problem

    it’s about identify that it is indeed an element of interference in your life and find out if you change or avoid any decisions based on it.

    2. Valuing the diversity of organs

    Accept that every body is different, that you have strengths to highlight and maybe others that you like less. The body image that we have in our mind does not always correspond to our ideal, which differs from each other.

    3. Change your thought patterns

    Identify the thoughts and emotions associated with that part of your body (Or your whole body) to try and turn them into less harsh ones on yourself.

    4. Try not to be afraid to express it

    This, of course, doesn’t have to be a premise. But if at any time you feel like sharing or talking about it normally, don’t refrain from thinking that you will be judged or they won’t understand you.

    5. Try to focus on health

    The most important aspect when talking in terms of weight is keep us as far as healthy. If your body values ​​are adjusted, along with your energy and vitality, this is the priority.

    6. Strengthen your virtues

    Get some exercise go through all the good aspects you have and try to focus on them so that your attitude is positive.

    Author: Nadia de Reial López, Gral psychologist. Sanitary M-24795.

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