Self-esteem is the value we place on who we are, while self-concept refers to how we perceive ourselves.
Both are vital from our earliest childhood, in which what we believe to be to our parents, siblings, and first friends is key. The early family environment will be the basis for strong emotional relationships.
Personal image: how does it develop?
After childhood will come adolescence, another critical stage in which the personal image begins to settle and develop and sentimental relationships appear. The way we experience this will influence how we deal with partner dynamics and emotions in the future. It is a time of change for people and these relationships are generally lived with uncertainty, with intensity, but also with great disappointments, so it will be necessary to help the boys and the girls.
Another area where a lack of self-esteem can take its toll on us is the work environment., Every day more competitive and in which we must feel strengthened to manage without problems. In our workplace, we are faced with a variety of situations every day that test our worth. Some, almost always the negatives, are repeated every day, and make us question a lot of things.
To prevent established hierarchical relationships, work injustices, or bad relationships with co-workers from harming us, we need to have self-confidence and be able to take criticism.
Self-esteem and personal image
In these times when the image has taken on a major role, it is impossible to speak of self-esteem without making reference to it; on social networks, chats, selfies and on this instagram where many lives are exposed, not always real.
Overexposure causes a lot of self-esteem issues in people who don’t feel good about their physique.. The comparison with other people on networked profiles and the social demand to look good increased their discomfort.
For those who prioritize the image over other levels, the impact of not feeling good on their outward appearance will be very high in this context.
The problem arises when this fixation on our physique is excessive, as it can generate stress, anxiety, as well as verbalizations and behaviors that pursue the objective of camouflaging or modifying the physical appearance. In these cases, psychologists speak of dysmorphophobic disorder.
This disorder can be the end point of a path full of insecurities and complexes that crystallize in such beliefs.
In this case, the affected person must be handed over to a professional who, in the first place, makes him understand what is causing him so much discomfort. Second, the psychologist and the client will work on the beliefs that limit you.
Can dysmorphophobia be treated?
Of course, there are effective treatments to minimize dysmorphophobia., Help the patient to significantly reduce his discomfort and to make small physical complexes more and more bearable.
Without reaching this extreme, the discomfort manifests itself, for example, in the obsession with shopping and in negative verbalizations in front of the mirror, the classic “I have nothing to wear” in front of a closet full of clothes. Adolescents, especially women, often face this type of insecurity due to the social pressure they face.
The constant need to buy and brand new clothes, accessories or any other object or complement that reinforces the personal image should therefore not be taken for banality, otherwise the fact of not being able to do so has an impact on the good. -to be.
It is very important to watch for these behaviors in adolescence, a time when, as I noted earlier, a lot of how we see ourselves is being shaped.
Tips for taking care of self-esteem
Self-esteem is the key throughout our life and should always be nurtured and cultivated. He needs to be pampered and strengthened. That’s why I leave you with these tips.
- Appreciate and appreciate the successes, even the smallest, that you achieve every day.
- Defend your asserted rights. You don’t have to say “yes” to everyone. If someone criticizes or laughs at you, ask them what they mean and defend yourself calmly but forcefully.
- Mistakes are human. You also have the right to engage.
- Don’t be afraid to play the ridiculous, you will find that, if necessary, it is not as bad as you imagined.
- Be proud of what you have accomplished in the past and present.
- Don’t be so modest. If someone congratulates you, thank them and don’t underestimate yourself.
- Don’t let your fears stop you from pursuing your goals.
And of course if you think you need psychological support, do not hesitate to go to your referral center.