The 3 causes of discouragement and lack of desire (and their solution)

If there is a psychological difficulty that has multiplied in recent years, it is discouragement or lack of desire, which can also lead to depression.

We live in a hyper-stimulating world, and by turns we feel more and more dejection, discomfort, apathy and emptiness.. We don’t know what decisions to make and getting out of this endless circle never seems to happen. Why do we feel this? How can we solve it?

Feeling discouraged, apathetic or lack of desire at certain times in our lives is natural. However, for it to be such a common state is completely counterproductive, it causes us to become more blocked and over time it can lead to depression.

In my case, as a psychologist and coach, I always accompany more people who are looking to get out of this situation in their personal change process. In all these cases we see that there are 3 fundamental factors that lead us to this discouragement, apathy or lack of desire.

The objective that we have in this article is that you dig deeper into what is happening to you, and above all, that you can find tools to start solving it. Everything I’m going to tell you is based on my experience as a psychologist who has been helping people with these problems since 2012, in a stable and profound way. Let’s go for that.

The meaning of discouragement or lack of desire

Like we said, feeling discouraged at certain times in our lives is natural. Discouragement involves a moment of rest, of distance from what is happening, which can help you take a step back, increase your openness and find solutions. However, too frequent, intense and long-lasting discouragement or lack of desire this can lead to severe blockage.

Discouragement is an unpleasant emotion, which involves a lack of interest in action and is based on the belief that our actions are irrelevant. In other words, we don’t act because we think it won’t make sense to act. Discouragement is also contagious: as our behavior responds to more discouragement or apathy, this discouragement increases and your own emotional world tends more and more towards demotivation.

Its meaning is to help you take a step back, and that in itself is positive. The problem is not discouragement, but how you understand and manage this emotionin such a way that you have immersed yourself in this state.

The 3 causes of discouragement and apathy

Discouragement or apathy can be caused by 3 main reasons or by a combination of the three. The first and most important thing you need to understand is that discouragement is not a root causethat is to say that it does not bequeath itself spontaneously to your life, but arises following other events, and above all, it depends on your actions.

This is good news, because it means that the solution also depends on you and your personal change.

These are the 3 main causes of discouragement, apathy and lack of desire:

1. Anxiety reaction

When we spend too much time with anxiety (which is a generalized state of fear that causes us to have intrusive thoughts, physical discomfort, and a constant state of alertness and anxiety) our body is exhausted, and therefore it generates discouragement. Anxiety is exhausting and causes us so much discomfort that it blocks our lives. Feeling discouraged in response to anxiety is a common consequence; hence the diagnosis of the famous “anxio-depressive” syndrome. If this is your case, know that the solution is to face the anxiety first. When you lower the intensity of anxiety, everything starts to get easier. We achieve this in a few weeks thanks to good breathing.

2. That your well-being does not depend on you

When you get used to your well-being according to external factors that you cannot control (the behavior of others, how they value you, your work situation, the results of a project) creates anxiety, insecurity, and over time, discouragement. A functioning self-esteem is one that makes your well-being primarily dependent on you. If this is your case, you know where we need to start working and applying the changes.

3. Taking too long without rewarding yourself

Discouragement also comes from the lack of positive stimuli, but they should be non-material rewards or from other people, but the natural rewards that come from your own behavior. When you forget yourself, discouragement will come. If this is your case, we need to start working with behaviors that generate this well-being on your own.

The relationship between discouragement and depression

Sometimes we don’t know if what is happening to us is discouragement, apathy or even depression. depression is real a state of discouragement that has become stable, so that your energy becomes scarce. But we did not arrive at this state quickly, but through a long and sometimes invisible process. For this reason, it is so important that you learn to deal with your discouragement now, so that it does not become stable and lead you to bigger problems.

Discouragement and doubts (fear and insecurity)

Discouragement also generates constant doubts. Can I? Is it wise to dare? Doubts are always a consequence of fear and insecurity, which have the tool of blocking you through questions and assumptions.

The way out of doubts is not an eternal decision, but to have an action plan that leads you to concrete changes, which will make the doubts no longer make sense.

How to Solve Your Discouragement Problem in a Stable and Practical Way

The solution to this problem lies in your personal change, not in magic tools or external solutions. Your own personal change should be about understanding and knowing how to manage how you feel, having meaningful change, and most importantly, having the business be consistent.

For this reason, in my case, as a psychologist and coach, I do not only accompany with occasional sessions, but every day for any need you may have and without consultation limits. In this way, we manage to deal with your difficulties as they arise without necessarily waiting for a session. In addition, we work with tools and weekly sessions, so it is a process of deep, comprehensive, practical and stable change. My goal is to accompany people in processes where they get what they need 100% and it is sustainable over time.

If this is what you want, remember that on this page you can see the possibility of scheduling a first session with me, which you can have from home, to get to know us, see what the problem is in your case , find a stable solution and analyze how I can support you in your process

I send you lots of encouragement. Remember that the opposite of discouragement is not joy, but confidence. scared of it

Thank you for thinking of you, Rubén

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