Toxic personalities consume our time and energy, And many people are unaware of the negative impact these people have on their lives. These people are a source of conflict, create discomfort and stress, among many other problems.
A recent study from Friedrich Schiller University, conducted in Germany, shows how toxic people influence the well-being of those around them.
How toxic people affect our brains
In this research, it was found that exposure to stimuli that cause strong negative emotions (like this type of individuals) causes subjects to have a massive stress response, and this stress is detrimental to our thought organ. .
Solo a few days of exposure to the stressful stimulus compromises the efficiency of the hippocampal neurons, An important area of the brain responsible for reasoning and memory. One week of exposure causes reversible damage to brain cells, and months of stress can destroy them permanently. As you can see, toxic people not only make you sad or anxious, but can have long term negative consequences.
Can people change?
However, care should be taken when labeling people. While it is true that there are individuals with toxic personalities, on many (not all) occasions it is possible to talk and solve problems. Everyone can change, but they must also do their part.
However, toxic people do exist and can cause relationship problems that will eventually affect you. Whether in your circle of friends or at work, you need to spot this source of stress because it can affect your well-being and your quality of life.
- We recommend that you read: “23 Signs You’re Having A Toxic Relationship”
Toxic personalities: how to detect them?
Have you ever had a coworker slam you on the back just to be jealous? Or did a supposed friend lie to you to take advantage of it in certain situations, no matter how it affected you?
In everyday life situations, we may meet people who are going to hurt us and who, no matter how much we do our part, are only going to want to get away with it no matter what. In these cases, it is better to stay away and surround yourself with people who give us something positive, who add and do not subtract..
There are different signs to detect a toxic personality. They are as follows:
- It makes you lose your papers
- Their presence has a strong negative impact on your self-esteem
- He blames you when he’s the culprit
- You feel fear and discomfort when you have to be with him
- You cannot be relaxed and calm in his presence
- You are on the defensive when you approach
Types of toxic personalities
It is clear that before blaming others, we have to look at ourselves, because we can often focus on others to excuse our own behavior. Sometimes it’s the relationship itself (in which we have both been involved) that causes a person to behave negatively towards us.
People with toxic personalities, however, tend to behave the same with other people and in other situations. But … What types of toxic personality can we find? Here is a list of toxic personalities.
One toxic personality trait is selfishness. Selfish are those who don’t want to share anything with us, but when they are interested in something, they are kind.
They are manipulative and can pose as our friends, but their only goal is to get something in return. They are not a true friendship and we will not be able to deepen our feelings with them or give them our trust. Selfish people, sooner or later, will bring their true self to light.
On the other hand, those who stand out for their egoism are also characterized by rejection of the idea of creating networks of collaboration and cooperation, because if this attitude starts to become popular, their ability to refuse to share can make it isolated. The idea is therefore to make individualism prevail in almost all cases, except in those where this person needs something from others.
Envious people always want what another person has and they can’t have it, And so they will never be happy that things are going well for other people. This situation is not healthy for either the victim or the envious person, and behind the envy is always low self-esteem, frustration, and pain.
Envy arises because these people do not focus their happiness on their inner selves. Spending too much time with envious people is dangerous because it will feel a great resentment towards you and the people around you.
Manipulators steal time and energy from people on the pretext that “nothing bad is happening”. They have the ability to convince you even of issues that are not for you and guide you down the path they want, without objection and without worrying about the negative consequences a situation may have for you.
Manipulators recognize other people’s weaknesses, don’t stop until they get what they want, are insatiable, and always want to be in control.
- You can deepen these aspects in our article: “Manipulative people have these 5 traits in common”
Without a doubt, one of the worst personalities one can find is that of the abuser, but unfortunately, child abuse is a phenomenon that can occur not only in relationships, but in school (which called bullying) or at work (called bullying). Better stay away from these people as they tend to hide a lot of hate in them.
- Abuse doesn’t have to be physical, it can also be psychological. If you want to know what an abuser looks like: “Profile of the psychological abuser: 21 common traits”
Intolerant people are people full of prejudices and are therefore influenced by stereotypes and by ideas of something or someone accepted as a model of qualities or behaviors.
Instead of appreciating and learning from people who are different from them, people who judge others look at others with contempt. Except for objective people, it is better to stay away from them.
Authoritarian personality is what dominates dictatorsBut these traits can also present people who are not part of the government (even if they act as if they hold a very high share of power).
These people behave undemocratically and seek to exercise control over those around them, assuming that they are the ones who can best decide what is good and what is bad. Consciously or unconsciously, they do not listen to others and those around them, because they think that the only valid criterion is theirs and they want everyone to obey them.
Sociopaths are those people who show no empathy for others or remorse for their actions.And although they have a normal temperament, they have not acquired a number of social skills due to the neglect and parental incompetence of the family, which often involves situations of violence.
They may appear charming when they meet them, but in the long run they show negative behaviors that affect the people around them, among other things, because they do not see others as their peers and therefore do not show self-respect. ’empathy.
- You can learn more about this personality type in our article: “Differences between psychopathy and sociopathy”
Neuroticism is called instability emotional. We can all have some degree of neuroticism, but those who have a high degree of it and do nothing to regulate it and try to make their interpersonal relationships work, are often a big problem for members of their social circles. This is so because they do not tolerate well the little frustrations and inconveniences that interacting with others brings in a natural and irremediable way.
Emotional instability has its origin in low self-esteem and irrational beliefs that are part of a person’s mental patterns, which leads them to be perfectionists and focus their happiness on external factors. These are people who usually live on an emotional roller coaster and can exhibit childish behaviors..