History is written in capitals thanks to its phases of transition and crisis. Conflict, protests and awareness allow society to rewrite its foundations and create a new structure of thought, feeling and action.
Our present time, in particular, is steeped in a phenomenon of social denunciationIt’s dynamic, but difficult. We have the impression that something is “cooking”. Something that wants to transcend the limits of the current system. For many intellectuals, we are living through an extraordinarily historic time.
In this article, in conversation with psychologists Hernández, we will see how these moments of social struggle help us to reinterpret the concept of victim with regard to traumatic incidents.
An era of victim empowerment
Movements such as #MeTo, feminism or legislation on historical memory clearly reflect the vindictive nature of the present.. And, at the same time, they serve as spokespersons to focus on the “human drama”, both immediate and daily and before.
This period of crisis therefore facilitates the expression and recognition of the damage suffered, by honoring our status, at least in the past, as victims.
This socio-cultural broth therefore not only shouts “Enough is enough!” but it also makes it possible to face up to be able to share a “I was a victim of …” or a “I went through …” The need to realize and share something painful about our past begins to arise within us. Or the desire to put limits on a current situation that is frankly uncomfortable and incompatible with our personal values.
How is this discomfort treated in therapy?
Psychologists Hernández applaud the arrival of this “intimate crisis”, despite their inherent discomfort and despair, because, due to their specialized training in this phenomenon and their psychotherapeutic experience, they know what it means, what its potential is. for personal growth and how to address it.
however, give voice to countless sufferings, Whether in the form of sexual abuse, physical and psychological abuse, moral harassment, school bullying, etc. to adjust to a very particular methodology. In this sense, his model of psychotherapeutic work in the face of “traumatic incidents”, whatever they may be, fulfills these conditions which we will see later.
1. He is listened to without prejudice
The person who wishes to share his story has the right to receive treatment based on unconditional acceptance, non-judgment and authenticity.
This person has the courage to ask for help to “match” a painful situation that has not been shared until then and this honor for the therapist translates into a guarantee of respect, commitment and confidentiality.
2. The person has the right to feel in control of his experiential process
Each person has their own words, queen of their time and space, protagonist of their story, And the psychotherapist and the therapeutic relationship are at your service.
The traumatic incident can be related in words or through “non-verbal” procedures: being explained in writing, in a drawing, using music, body movements, etc.
The specialization of Hernández psychologists has led them to train in various therapeutic approaches, such as art therapy, sandboxing, sensorimotor therapy, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), psychodrama, etc. seeking personal empowerment and flexibility in the storytelling process.
In addition, there is the psychological option to facilitate cognitive and emotional reprocessing of the traumatic experience without having to share anything about what happened, due to the therapeutic power of procedures such as EMDR. or focus, for example.
3. The person has the right to share the traumatic incident in an “integrated” way.
Human beings can be seen as a constellation of experiences, resources and relationships. This richness can condense into the formation of an internal system of “parts”, and more than one “I” can exist within us: a frightened inner child, a rebellious adolescent, an efficient and responsible adult, and so on.
Psychologists Hernández honor both the person’s experience and their current emotional process and individual idiosyncrasy, so that the narration and reprocessing of the painful event is carried out taking into account the needs, fears and resources of the person. all internal parts of the system, out of kindness and curiosity, without forcing anything or anyone.
4. The person has the right to share their story without risking being “re-traumatized”
As important as what is how. The account of the traumatic incident will be followed, from time to time, by the psychotherapist, Make sure that it does not facilitate access to a state of terror or extreme anger (hyperactivation) or a situation of disconnection and numbness (hypoactivation).
It is the task of the psychotherapist to accompany the person in this process so that he can be maintained in a range of painful but healthy experiences, which facilitates his release; in neuroscientific terms, within an “optimal activation tolerance window”.
The person, in short, she will never feel overwhelmed or overwhelmed by her experience in the presence of the psychotherapist, Being able to take “home” both tools for emotional self-regulation and relationship regulation, due to the emphasis psychologists Hernández place on so-called emotional intelligence.
5. The person has the right to receive “contextualized” treatment
The person with a traumatic story is not an isolated islet in the sea. It is, by nature, part of a network of relationships, family, couple, professional and / or social. Disclosure of the incident must be made taking into account the social reality of the person as well as the person’s present moment.
In Hernández, they accompany you in your process of narrating and liberating your past, but without losing sight of the present, nor your current socio-emotional and working moment. To this end, their training and specialization are also based on psychotherapeutic approaches based on Mindfulness or Systemic Therapy, be experts in the dynamics of family and couple relationships.
The courage and sensitivity of a person who wants to not only share, but integrate and heal a traumatic memory requires, in turn, an exercise of honesty, responsibility and commitment, where the “how” and the “Who” they are above “what” and “why”.
If you feel that you are connected to this internal urge to share a terrible story, Hernández psychologists are committed to caring for and developing this experience that emerges in your mind and body and, most importantly, they want to give you their breath, their training, their experience and their professional dedication. They not only offer specialized psychological treatment for your problem, but tailored to you, your history, and your current moment.
Remember that you are more than your story, no matter how much it has conditioned your experience. Plus, you are on top of your process, confusing and agonizing as it can be. At the end, you deserve to reach your full potential and this may transcend your role as a victim and connect with your innate capacity to love, to be passionate and to discover.