They detect cancer in a loved one: coping strategies

Cancer, a word that shrinks the stomach, Overwhelms and disposes the person diagnosed and their environment in a vulnerable situation.

No wonder, because according to WHO data, cancer is one of the leading causes of morbidity and mortality worldwide. In 2012, around 14 million new cases were registered and the number of new cases is expected to increase by around 70% over the next 20 years.

Given this global data, what can be done? Perhaps just hoping for a supposed and growing scientific breakthrough and improved clinical care. But what happens when cancer ceases to be an abstract fear that affects society and materializes into a particular fear, which affects a person present in their own life? What happens when someone in your emotional circle is diagnosed with cancer?

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When cancer appears in loved ones: forms of coping

We know that there are many types of cancer, depending on the organs affected, the stage they are in and the specific situation of each patient. However, there seems to be a common fear of the diagnosis: fear of suffering the patient and fear of death.

From this fear, and like most fears, hang others, chaining the concerns that need to be addressed, to minimize the impact they can have on both the psyche itself and on the family and group social in which we live.

Every human being is endowed with the capacity to face difficulties. There are individual differences when it comes to dealing with painful situations, but there are also resources and strategies that can be of use to many people.

In that line, here are some actions that can help any adult adjust to the situation of a loved one’s cancer diagnosis.

1. Allow emotional reaction and expression

Imagine: you are told that someone you want has cancer. The news falls like a cold rain shower, but you have to go about your daily responsibilities, probably at a fast and efficient pace. However, it is necessary to find a space-time for the emotional integration of the news, leaving a space to connect with the emotions that it generates.

Sadness, anger, frustration, anger … these are emotions that are socially considered negative but still denying them does not make things easier, Not even close. Give yourself permission to hear and express them.

Perhaps you need to make an effort to give space to the emotions that come over you. How? ‘Or’ What? Finding your means of expression will be the first exercise. There are people who live their emotions on their own, finding a quiet space to cry, breathe deeply or scream. Others use a journal to freely express their emotions.

If loneliness isn’t a comforting space for you, connect with people you trust to express yourself and put words on your emotional knots. We know that the fact verbalize your emotions, Already has a significant therapeutic effect.

    2. If emotions flood, you must seek to re-float

    Although you should also leave room to connect with the emotions the danger that they reach unsuitable levels must be addressed for its own balance.

    In other words, that is to say sadness or anger may appearBut if they are maintained intensely for long periods of time and affect, for example, the quality of sleep, eating habits or emotional relationships, help is needed.

    In situations where emotions seem to flood life, it is not more courageous who intends to swim just by swallowing water, but who is able to seek out the table to re-float.

      3. I have no medical training and do not understand anything, what should I do?

      When diagnosed with cancer, many doubts arise related to medical concepts with which you are sometimes not familiar. We currently have access to information quickly, which is not always good.

      It is possible that in the face of medical reports, there was an urgent need to know more, so we found ourselves immersed in the Internet. read things that perhaps far from reassuring us, further exacerbate our fears.

      In view of this, it may be best to stop researching on our own and writing down the doubts and problems associated with the disease in a notebook and comparing them with the medical team carrying the case. It should be remembered that each person and each process has its own characteristics and therefore it is better to be informed about the particular situation.

        4. Follow day by day, the world does not stop

        Although the world seems to have stopped, the daily must follow, whether the prognosis is more or less favorable. It may seem insensitive, but it is for the good of the patient and his environment. We must fight so that cancer is not the protagonist, and open spaces and times where we can relax, as much as possible, and find little things that generate well-being.

        In this sense, you don’t need to make a list of ‘things to do before you die’ and do them, but maybe more important is the art of valuing the little things and enriching everyday life: Give and water an aromatic plant, play, walk, remember the good times, cook, see the sea, watch photos, movies, listen to music …

        There may be demotivation, loss of appetite or difficulty in undertaking certain activities. If this happens, we can base our actions on one simple and very powerful goal: laughter. Laughter is involved in the generation of opiates (natural substances the brain secretes to cope with pain) and is one of the most powerful tools.

        Jokes, trivia, stories or laughs, even if he’s reluctant, until you get some real laughs and even contagion. You have to try it, few things are as grateful as human laughter. Find a way to make someone in pain laugh it can be one of the most powerful things you can do right now.

        If the severity of the disease hinders movements or complex cognitive activities, we base action on understanding this concept: the nutritional business. In this sense, accompany without forcing, only allow the person with cancer to feel accompanied, whether it is to express their emotions, ask questions, oppose opinions or share silence.

        Bibliographical references:

        • Kleihues, P. and Cavenee, W. (2000). World Health Organization Classification of Tumors. Pathology and genetics of nervous system tumors. IARC, Lyon.
        • Jaimes, J., Clar, A., Perea, S., and Jaimes, I. (2011). Laughter, an essential complement to the patient’s recovery. Med UIS, 24, 1-6.

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