One thing is certain: a priori, hardly anyone wants to die. The vast majority of people conceive of the process of dying as the most terrible thing that can happen to an individual. We humans, in our constant desire to possess total “omnipotence” (in addition to the ideals marked by transcendence), aspire to permanence in life.
For suicide, on the other hand, death takes on a special meaning.. Their way of thinking about death is very different from that of the vast majority, and this influences their behavior and attitudes.
Death, according to suicides
Suicides can come to conceptualize death in two different ways. They are as follows.
An emergency exit
Here the suicidal person understands death as liberation from the bonds and hardships of life, a coming change of what has been experienced. another existential plan imagined and characterized by the absence of suffering.
Suicide can be planned and executed as a way to get rid of the issues that are suffocating that person. “I can’t take it anymore”, “I’m fed up with this suffering”, etc. these are just a few of the statements that the person in crisis makes in the deepest moments of their ideation, although they do not have to express them openly. The possibility of committing the act is considered an emergency exit because their personal, family or social situation becomes practically unbearable.
For the individual, what he will find after his death is not as important as the fact of moving away a little: pain, sorrow, the suffering of loved ones and loved ones, etc. The really important thing is to get out of your condition once and for all, cross this “bag in the ass” to the discovery. The main goal of the suicide act is to quickly overcome the current anxiety.
Suicide seen in the positive
For others, suicide may have a different purpose than the previous one: to make a change, either in itself or in the environment in which the suicide takes place. From this other point of view the important thing is not to get rid of this situation of anxiety but rather it focuses on what the person wants to achieve: Tranquility, peace, happiness …
In this case, the concept turns into a kind of portal into which the subject enters to obtain a more harmonious and pleasant life experience (on a transcendental level). From the above, although it may seem illogical and confusing, it is possible to state that for these people the main goal of suicide is to live fully, even if it seems paradoxical.
From the point of view already mentioned, suicide would transform itself as a gateway to a new life where tranquility and emotional calm are the protagonists, as well as to spice up the new stage of life and move on to another in which it there will be neither. the anguish and the suffering that can arise at a given moment in the present life. It would be something like going back to the safety of the mother’s womb.
Thus, the act of suicide can be explained by a channeling towards the rejection of life, or by a rapid approach to death itself.
Suicidal reasoning: a curious contradiction
In the current plot of suicide, life and death are the protagonists of the drama. Between these two poles, the decision is taken to end his life; in the suicidal dialectic, the fear of living and of suffering on the one hand, and the fear of dying on the other hand, would be the two extremes of existence.
The goal is therefore to die, but also to start living differently. Several authors claim that suicidal behavior is, in the first place, an act of life and not of death. Anyone who wishes to commit suicide yearns to free themselves from their problems, to change existing circumstances, or to return to a state of security, but deep within their being is a burning desire to live.
A form of hope?
Other specialists in the phenomenon believe that suicide is synonymous with hope, hope to continue living in peace and quiet. With this, suicide becomes the means to eliminate the existing hopelessness, suffocating depression and permanent guilt. It is also a way of disappearing, but remaining in the consciousness of family and friends as a painful and difficult memory to overcome.
At the extreme of those who observe life is the broad spectrum of those who manifest a first symptom of general discomfort identified as “denial of life” and self-disqualification, which produces a deep desire not to live, not to live. no longer exist.
It is from this moment when there is a sudden turn towards death: From the constant desire to die to the desire to commit suicide, and from the latter to suicide. As death approaches, the experience of suicidal thoughts becomes stronger and the risk of self-harm is increased.