Wendy’s syndrome: people who need the approval of others

We have already spoken in another article about the characteristics of Peter Pan syndrome. Behind someone who suffers from this syndrome, there is always someone who takes care of him.

Wendy’s Syndrome

This person is Wendy, and has an urgent need to satisfy the other, especially if it is their partner or their children.

Examples of Wendy’s syndrome would be a father or mother who practically does his child’s homework, waking him up every morning so he doesn’t arrive late for school even though he’s old enough to do so. to do alone, he seeks to do – always the easy life that surrounds him or also the housewife who assumes all the responsibilities at home so that the husband and the children do not have to do it; or a member of a couple who assumes all functions and makes decisions and further justifies the informal nature of their partner in front of others.

Characteristics of Wendy’s syndrome

To clarify things, let’s take a look at the characteristics of a person with Wendy Syndrome:

  • It seems essential to others.
  • He understands love as sacrifice and resignation.
  • Feel the need to take care and protect others by assuming a mother figure. He ends up taking on the role of his partner’s father or mother.
  • Avoid so much that people around you get angry or angry.
  • Try to make others happy all the time.
  • He always tries to please those around him.
  • Insist on doing things and taking responsibility for the other person.
  • Continually apologize for everything you haven’t done or failed to do even if the responsibility is not on you.
  • He is depressed from lack of attention and relies on social acceptance.

Need for security

So far this description may remind us of our mothers and fathers and the reader may think it is not negative as it all seems a bit beautiful and altruisticBut Wendy doesn’t do this for fun, but this set of behaviors she’s playing for Fear of being rejected, For the need to feel accepted and supported and for fear that no one wants him. What, counted and debated, leads them to be too subservient to others is one of them. need security.

Emotional addiction

Another negative aspect of this behavioral disorder is that people with Wendy Syndrome find it difficult to control their own course of life, so they focus on trying to control the lives of others. It is also likely that a mother Wendy will have a child with Peter Pan syndrome.

Those who suffer from this syndrome hardly recognize that it is their reality and their diagnosis, although it is an unestablished clinical entityThis is done because people come to the clinic feeling “burned out”, oversaturated, or overwhelmed. Those who suffer from this syndrome go to the specialist of their own accord.

As in PPS, the origin of the syndrome is often in the family history of the person suffering from it, in which the person feels separated and unprotected, so that in adulthood compensates for the lack of direction and protection. Take on the role of absent or wishing parents. And unlike PPS, Wendy’s syndrome it affects women more than menThis may be due to cultural and educational factors.

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