What is the impact of a divorce on men and women?

When talking about a divorce and its consequences, women are generally considered to be the sex most affected.; however, similar responses have been shown that lead to some differential factors between men and women in the face of crisis.

These factors are determined, for example, with the causes of divorce, namely infidelity, economic problems and lack of tolerance, among many others, as well as which of the two members of the couple makes the decision.

Differences between the psychological impact of divorce on men and women

So let’s see the most common aspects that have been found in this subject, according to studies carried out at the University of California and Nebraska, as well as other data obtained during consultations and research that I have carried out in my profession .

1. In general, a man, when he divorces his partner, also goes through the separation of his children

It causes man to feel a deep emptiness and in the case of the woman, to assume greater responsibility when she stays with her children.

2. The judgments faced by a critical and macho society

We have become accustomed to making judgments simply because of what we observe without knowing the reasons or the feelings that others carry inside.

3. The financial aspect

When it comes to money, it can become your worst enemy, not only to reach an agreement of responsibilities, but to face new challenges when it comes to taking control of the management of money and its organization.

The financial aspect has always been debated as women are more concerned when it comes to taking that control, going to work (those who haven’t), being aware of payments in timely and that nothing is lacking for the well-being of their childrenin front of men who also find a large number of complaints and claims for the lack of economic contribution to provide for the needs of their children.

4. If it comes to the emotional part, depression and anxiety are very common in both genders

Here the difference is marked in how this chaos is faced, since the man tries to hide his sadness, he tells a lot less and looks for outlets like alcohol, the search for a woman or loneliness. While women are more likely to ask for help, romp with friends, even cry, write or take time for herself, hang out with their friends, or drink alcohol.

5. Physical well-being

We can’t ignore the physical consequences of a breakup, as it can lead to lingering illnesses, eating disorders, and even physical neglect in both sexes.

6. Self-esteem takes a hit in both men and women

It’s because of the divorce an inventory begins to be made of what has been delivered over the life of the relationship, thinking about what went wrong, having thoughts about an uncertain future or imagining that your ex has a new relationship or feeling that you are no longer the priority for the other. It’s a game of ego, of pride, which is a hidden monster when it comes to reaching an agreement or ensuring the well-being of children.


It is important to note that the points described above can occur in either of two gender cases, or maybe or not your case. What I think is important to emphasize is that both men and women are affected by a crisis situation, without it being necessary to hold it against us, without judging what the reason for the divorce was, but rather accepting that the pain is alleviated when we have the support of a professional who provides us with the appropriate resources to transform families and start again from a state of well-being.

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