How do you rate yourself?
Our society demands constant self improvement and always doing things right. But we must understand that it is normal that we make mistakes in order to improve ourselves and that no one is born doing everything perfectly; moreover, perfection does not exist, and pursuing it will only lead us to frustration and not knowing how to recognize and value our achievements.
We should not normalize the feeling of being inferior to others, because it is something we can work on and thus improve our self-esteem, our self-confidence and ultimately our self-image.
In this article you will learn about the phenomenon of inferiority complexeswhat causes and symptoms are related to it and how to deal with it so that it decreases.
How do you define inferiority complex?
Inferiority complex is defined as the feeling of inferiority, of being worth less than others. That is to say that we understand by inferiority complex the spontaneous tendency to place oneself below others. Thus, the characteristics we compare can be both physical and psychological (abilities or skills), always being inferior to those of other individuals.
This difference with the other can be real or fictitiousbut the problem is that it affects and creates discomfort in the individual, affecting several times in his life.
Common symptoms or signs of inferiority complex
Although each person is different and we can express the same characteristic differently, there are common symptoms that show the subjects with this condition, and which can alert us to intervene and prevent possible more serious alterations.
One of the most typical features of inferiority complex is low self-esteem. The esteem that these subjects have for themselves is low, they do not have a good consideration of it, thus being placed below the others and being considered less than them. We see negative thinking towards the person themselves where it is also common to think that one is not up to it or not to recognize and value the positive things that one achieves.
This belief in inferiority similarly generates an insecurity that is difficult to translate into decision-making, the decision to act, the defense of one’s own rights, the expression of one’s opinion. They constantly think their judgment is invalid and have more faith in the beliefs or opinions of others, always trying to please them.
Considering the severity of these symptoms, it has been observed that They may end up developing a mental disorder like depression or anxietythus being even more dysfunctional for the individual and in any case requiring psychological intervention.
Causes that can lead to an inferiority complex
The feeling of inferiority can appear for different reasons, it depends on both biological factors and the learning generated in different experiments, with the reinforcement or punishment of certain behaviors. So it may be that we observe this feeling of inferiority since childhood.
Although there are various variables that can produce this complex, some occur more frequently, such as: a physical trait that we do not like, that differentiates us from others or that is not valued positively in society because it could being overweight or being criticized during childhood by adults or peers, it may happen that from an early age their parents have only emphasized their negative characteristics by making them prevail and taking precedence over the positive.
Similarly, children learn and govern themselves a lot by models, figures that they imitate their actions, if they have seen inferior behavior in their parents, a perception of insecurity and lack of esteem is more likely than adults also show this behavior. Another influencing variable is self-demand, it can also have both a biological and an acquired tendency. Subjects who always ask for more will never find any of their accomplishments sufficient. and, therefore, they will not reward themselves or value their abilities or skills.
This disposition to see only the evil of oneself and not to value oneself is self-destructive and invalidating since it is the individual himself who, by his way of being, stops acting or trying to achieve his goals believing that he will always fail or that it is impossible to obtain him. The subject becomes his worst enemy by entering a loop where he only sees the negative, stops doing or trying things for lack of power and thus continues in a negative state. The perception of inferiority and non-action, of doing nothing to improve oneself, has repercussions by worsening the conception that the individual has of himself.
As well, Overprotection in childhood can also lead to an inferiority complex; If parents do not allow their children to try and make mistakes, to learn that not everything in life is positive, but everything with work can improve, it is likely that when they grow up and experience a negative situation or failure, they won’t know how to deal with it, get stuck in that negative feeling.
How to improve self-perception of inferiority
Like any psychological disorder, the first step necessary for change is that the subject recognizes his problem and wants to change, because otherwise any intervention will be useless. To reduce the inferiority complex, you have to look at the causes that generate it and deal with them in order to work on them and thus reduce the symptoms and discomfort.
Here are some strategies that can help you reduce the perception of inferiority and also improve all the variables we have pointed out that are linked to this perception, such as self-esteem or insecurity.
This alteration should not be minimizedas we said can lead to a mental disorder, so if you see that you cannot cope with the situation, you are overwhelmed by it and it is starting to affect your life, the best option is to go see a professional to receive a more personalized intervention and control your condition.
1. Never compare yourself
Comparing ourselves is a behavior we repeat often, often happening out of control, but we need to be able to shut that thought off when we see it arise. So, how difficult it is to control what we think and not wanting to think about something means doing morethe strategy will not be to deny us the action, but when we see that we put an end to it with this thought, understanding that it is a behavior that only affects us and brings us nothing good.
The positive abilities or skills other people have should help you want to improve and better yourself, but it doesn’t mean you feel inferior to them. Just as they stand out in a behavior or trait that you do in others, it cannot sink you in any way, it must give you momentum to achieve your goals.
2. Don’t take a passive stance
It is common for subjects to conform to this perception of inferiority and believe that no improvement is possible, that they will always feel that way.. Far from reality people have a right to feel good for this reason if you don’t feel good or you are not good with yourself about this situation don’t take a passive attitude or role , take action and look for a way to be better, because despite receiving help, you must be the one who takes the reins of change and improvement.
3. Change your thoughts
People who suffer from an inferiority complex have tendency to present general and negative thoughts where it is written that: “Nothing is going well for me” or “I am doing everything wrong”. Given these thoughts in terms of “black or white” and not at all real (since it is impossible for someone to always do everything wrong or receive nothing good), we need to modify the thought and raise it in a relative, specific, and situational way, for example, we’ll say, “That task didn’t go well for me” or “I need to improve on that skill.”
We emphasize that these are concrete facts that do not always happen, let alone define our identity and that we can solve our difficulties. If we delineate what is wrong with us or what we can improve, it will be easier to focus on our action goal. As we said before, we cannot avoid having certain thoughts, but we can be aware of them and change them to more functional thoughts.
4. Don’t be so picky about yourself
No one is perfect, e just as we can understand that people around us can make mistakes or do something wrong, we have the right to do the same.. Failure is part of life, since no one is born doing everything right, making a mistake is what allows you to realize where the mistake is coming from and where you can work to improve.
Just as you look at the negative things that happen to you, consider what is good and reward yourself for it. Functional criticisms are those that present real arguments and always with respect, what we call constructive criticism, any criticism that does not reflect reality or that we constantly make of it will not be functional and will not serve to improve.