“Why am I scared almost every day?” “What makes you fear the most everyday situations?”. This kind of idea is among the concerns of many people who, without knowing very well why this happens, notice that fear is an emotion that constantly depletes their quality of life, even in seemingly innocuous situations.
In the following lines we will see what the nature of fear is all that we can do to combat this feeling.
Why am I still afraid?
Emotions exist because they perform a function, and although sometimes the disadvantages they present outweigh the advantages, these situations are the exception and not the rule.
Fear, in particular, is one of the most powerful emotions we have. Whether we like it or not, its existence conditions our lives, Sometimes for the good (it helps us to avoid dangers) and sometimes for the bad (it helps us to find excuses not to seek to improve ourselves).
However, there are extreme cases in which this psychological factor becomes everything. an obstacle with which we sabotage ourselves over and over again when we have decided to step out of the comfort zone and start something new that will do us good. Go talk to someone we love, start a college degree, go to the gym, go to the dentist …
On these occasions there is a strong sense of frustration and a thought that cannot be let go: “why am I afraid and I am not facing my fears?”. The main causes are as follows.
The emotional imprint left on us by trauma they make us turn our attention to anything that can hypothetically lead us to have this experience (Or a similar one) again. This is why many traumatized people find it very easy to enter a state of hypervigilance from which it is complete to come out.
2. Lack of self-esteem
Lack of self-confidence contributes to the person being afraid of a lot of things because she does not feel ready to face certain areas of life. Specifically, those that involve personal relationships are usually a source of fear and insecurity.
3. Situations of ill-treatment and abuse
In some cases, the fear is rooted in a relationship problem that by definition is beyond the individual.
**** When suffered by attacks from another person or a group of them, the state of hypervigilance appears as a protective mechanism, but to the detriment of psychological well-being. Of course, this does not mean that the sufferer is responsible for it; not even close.
4. Genetic propensity
We must not forget that the genetic factor also matters. This doesn’t mean that having a certain DNA structure predisposes us to be constantly afraid, but it does mean that certain sets of genes make us more likely to develop persistent fears.
Signs that you live in fear
Some of the typical characteristics that these people exhibit are as follows. All are similar to those that appear in most phobias, In which there is a specific stimulus that triggers an anxiety attack.
1. Fear from the first hours
At the start of the day, they already think they are going to have to go through something that scares them.
2. Feel all kinds of physical discomfort
Living with constant fear generates physical wear and tear that accumulates day after day: muscle tension, poor sleep, and eating habits, etc.
3. Avoidance of normal situations
Many people tend to expose themselves to routine everyday settings with the prospect of things getting messed up and something capable of damaging them emerging.
What should be done to combat this anxiety?
When you take action against this discomfort and resolve the psychological causes of this fear, you can follow these steps.
1. Practice breathing exercises
Breathing control helps to “tame” the emotional state in which we find ourselves. For that, Getting into the habit of doing controlled breathing exercises can help a lot.
2. Little by little, expose yourself to your fears
Start with situations that scare you a little, and see yourself facing others that generate more fear in you, following an uphill curve of difficulty. This way you will learn through your experience that there is not so much reason to feel this way. facing any low anxiety situation.
3. Go to the psychologist
This option should not be excluded either if no significant progress is made with the previous ones. Fortunately, the power of psychotherapy to offer help to people with fears and anxiety problems is very high, and it has been shown to be effective through the use of various techniques performed under professional supervision.
- Hofmann, SG, Dibartolo, PM (2010). “Introduction: Towards an Understanding of Social Anxiety Disorder”. Social anxiety. p. xix – xxvi.
- American Psychiatric Association (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Association.