Many of us think that February 14 is happily marked on the mental calendar of most people who have a corresponding love.
However, Valentine’s Day also has its drawbacks. there are many reviews of the gift-based festivities. While most of them are also based on morality from the field of study of psychology it is easy to find reasons to relativize the virtues and sensations that awaken in us during Valentine’s Day.
10 aspects of Valentine’s Day that will cause you discomfort
Let’s take a look at ten reasons why this day is actually a double-edged sword:
1. Valentine is a mark in the calendar that makes you draw attention to a fundamental issue: Do I have the partner I’m waiting for? If I don’t have it … what did I do wrong that I couldn’t celebrate this day? And it is that lovers’ day is unique in raising the bar for us and, in fact, it also makes the bespoke bar itself appear out of nowhere.
2. Is it really mandatory to buy this? Not only because of the high environmental cost of mass-marketing roses, but also because of the emotional dependence that consumerism can create. And let’s face it, Valentine’s Day has its roots in the tradition of giving things away. Without these kind of gifts, it becomes another day. The question is, how much are we willing to spend on these gifts and what needs do they meet?
3. Valentine’s Day it can precipitate a breakup couples in crisis, according to a study conducted in 2004. It seems that this day can serve as a catalyst for romantic relationships, making them more unstable and exacerbating the problems that drag on.
4. The gift also makes business card function personal, a psychological phenomenon which could be summed up in: “so fantastic is me and so great is the gift that I give you.” Have you seen American Psycho? So that.
5. Valentine’s Day has another element of vanity. Giving things to a loved one may seem like an act born out of the heart and out of pure selflessness, but it really isn’t like that at all. Study suggests that the number one reason for giving a gift for men is … obligation. And besides, from afar.
6. The same study mentioned above indicates that 25% of men expect something in return for the gift. 89% of those who buy lingerie, in fact, think of themselves. Wave wave.
7. Valentine’s Day in conjunction with Father’s Day and Mother’s Day are compartmentalize forms of love. A love relationship that does not correspond to these definitions is less recognized, as if by force it should have less importance.
8. Haven’t we said it already? Valentine’s day has a “Saturday night” effect: Social pressure makes staying home without doing anything depressing (and we already know that being home in a bad mood is a direct route to the fridge).
9. If you liked the movie Amélie, be careful, because Valentine’s Day it’s an attack on the philosophy of small details of life. Crossing the 24 hours of Valentine’s Day is crossing a kind of little Las Vegas in which many huge and bright posters encourage you to taste love at your own pace, freely and however you want.
10. Last but not least, this is a date that it reminds you of your partner’s questionable tastes when requesting or offering gifts. The Valentine’s Day card industry is a mine of nonsense.
In short, we can say that Valentine’s Day is, like the rest of the year, a moment in our life that we must learn to don’t take us too seriously. Both for its shadows (the inability to fully experience this day according to our expectations) and for its lights (the belief that, unlike the rest of the year, Valentine’s Day is crystal clear uses the essence of love pure). We tend not to let social pressures tell the story of how we should live life from someone special’s side.