Before the end of the world, we will stop asking ourselves this question: should physical matter bind?
It would be unconscious to say no, That the physical does not matter at all and that beautiful and ugly people are related in the same way. Take a look around to see that they attract more good looks than ugly and do better when it comes to finding a mate.
Does being attractive bind you more? Does the physical matter?
But, How does it feel to be beautiful and how does it feel to be ugly? The answer may vary depending on who is answering. Feura and guapura are often very subjective concepts. We can say that such a person is beautiful or that such a person is ugly. But if we focus on what makes them ugly or what makes them beautiful, things change; it will be more difficult to answer. The same could happen if we show a group of friends a picture of a boy and ask him if they consider him ugly or handsome. A little debate about tastes, opinions and preferences is surely created.
- I recommend that you stop along the way to read this article: “11 things to never do to try to seduce”
Then we will expose three thoughts about ugliness and beauty which will help you to think differently and to observe beauty from three different angles. Maybe when you finish reading this article, your self-esteem starts to rise.
1. Go out into the street and watch
We went for a walk and felt the sun and the fresh air on our faces. We walk attentively, looking at the people in the street. We surely see people of all kinds of gender, race, age and class. Let’s take a look at each of them and try to determine if they are beautiful or ugly. Let’s first compare them with each other. We look at her eyes, her mouth, her body… We walk like judges in a beauty championship.
Then we change the subject of the comparison with ourselves. Contrast with the rest of the people. It may be easier for us to decide if we are using our filter self concepts. According to our self-esteem, there will be more people in the bag of the beautiful than in the bag of the ugly and vice versa. Finally, before returning home, we compare the people who pass in the street to the canons of beauty that the cinema and advertising have implanted in us; we compare all the boys with Brad pitt. Things are changing, right? Surely the bag of the ugly is overflowing.
2. Let’s reinterpret genetics
On the journey to love, Eduard Punset he explained very well what love is and its attraction mechanisms. In his book, he explained something that everyone knows: people are attracted to us and as a result we see more beautiful individuals with better genetics.
According to this theory, people with the best physique are the ones who bond the most. Therefore, people with the best genetics are the ones who bond the most. But what is genetics and what is not? We tend to understand that genetic traits are palpable and observable characteristics: eye color, musculature, height, hair, teeth … but is personality not observable?
Maybe, depending on their actions and their way of being, we are not observing the behavior of people? Are not intelligence, cognitive abilities or humor also genetic? Just like we go to the gym to enjoy our bodies, can’t we train the personality to make it more attractive? How many times have we heard from a girl’s mouth “this guy was really good until he opened his mouth”?
3. Darwin could tell us several things
We remember and we remember our school stage. Who managed to tie more, at that time? The stages of socialization and learning mark us for life, and it was during adolescence that we forged many of our beliefs about beauty. If we become evolutionists and remember what they told us about Darwin in school, we can understand why they always tied up the thugs, the guys who were great at a sport, or the guys who just were beautiful because they had beautiful eyes and beautiful hair. .
As to why “hard-boys” bond more, I find it essential to read the article “Why do women prefer hard-boys?” by psychologist Bertrand Regader, in which he explains his personality profile “Dark Triad” that attracts so many women.
The bad guy attracts, but it’s a downtrend …
According to evolutionists, girls are attracted to men who can protect them and give them better offspring. While this theory is highly debatable, something certain is true. If we stick to this assumption, we can understand why in high school they were always the same ones who were successful in bonding with the girls they loved. The girls had families that protected them and needed nothing more. They didn’t have to pay attention to smart guys. It was enough to look at the most beautiful boys because their stability did not depend on them, at least economically. If we think about the above reflection, for them beauty was reduced to something superficial and mundane because their needs at the time were already covered On another side.
To summarize, beauty is a subjective factor that has genetic roots, But that we can work, whether physically or intellectually. The canons of beauty are references that we have to keep in mind, but outside of television there is a real life in which we have to live happily ever after. We don’t let the learnings and beliefs we generate in the past torment us and we learn to understand the world in a new way that protects and improves our self-esteem and self-image.
More tips to be more attractive (even if you think you are not)
We recently published an article that might make you appreciate the subject of physical attractiveness from a different perspective. In addition to everything we have already described, you should keep in mind that there are some keys to be able to attract other people. Experiencing and tweaking certain details can make us a lot more engaging when it comes to finding someone to share special moments with.
- You can check it out by reading this article: “10 Ways To Be More Attractive (Scientifically Proven)”