It’s finally Saturday night! The week has passed and we were looking forward to the weekend to come and be able to go out together.
Just focusing on tied selling is not going to help us in any way. Excessive motivation can affect our effectiveness and will cause us to come home alone and defeated if we don’t achieve our only goal. Are you one of those people who go out at night with the only thought of approaching all the women who come across you to see if there are any bites? You are using a bad, very bad strategy.
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We must learn to call sin!
Is it possible to tie without tying?
I guess you are thinking: What is the point of “binding without binding”?
Well, it might sound like tautology or nonsense, but it’s a philosophy that works more and more for us men who want to meet women. If you read on you’ll understand why some things work when it comes to seducing girls while others set us up for failure.
8 Beginner Seducer Mistakes and 8 Solutions to Improve Your Social Skills
Although this statement may sound strange, we will outline below 08:00 errors that we all usually commit to when we go out to meet girls, And eight solutions to learn how to have fun and not focus on ligation.
1. Take out to tie
As we pointed out in the introduction, if we devote all of our energy and time to flirting and talking to girls, we will bet everything on one letter and, if we fail, it will affect our self-esteem. Bonding is just one more thing we can do in a social setting. Something interesting, without a doubt, but not the only or the most important.
We must keep in mind that it is more positive to go out for fun and socialize with all kinds of people regardless of gender. Starting to talk to our friends and acquaintances and having fun with them will help us forget about dating and relax.
2. There is the girl of my dreams, I will leave her speechless to boast of my sympathy and my gift of people
A girl is at the bar with a friend, she attracts us and we feel the urgent need to tie her up. We think of an ingenious way to approach and impress him, and when we decide to talk to him we feel fear come over us and cripple us.
We must not impress anyone. We didn’t come to do fireworks or a show of something as simple as talking to someone. We have to adapt to the social skills that we currently have. It’s not about loving anyone, it’s about getting to know someone. Important nuances. If we place too much emphasis on interaction, we are more likely to be overwhelmed with fear of failing and doing something wrong. The best thing to do is to approach this girl immediately with humility and try to have fun with her. A simple hello sometimes works better than the most ingenious phrase in the world.
3. “Get out of here!”
We managed to get closer to her; we have her in front of us and we checked that she was as pretty as she was looking at him from a distance. We look at her and realize that she is looking at us seriously and tired. He invades her again for fear of rejection, We turned around and left in a hurry, before he let us go 1:00 Bordería or even spoke to us and turned his face.
We have already pointed out that we have to approach a girl for fun and not to flirt with her. But it is likely that even though we have embraced this concept, we are still afraid of feeling rejected. Girls, especially in a nightclub, are used and saturated to be the butt of stares and receive thousands of comments from guys who want to flirt with them. It is normal that they do not find it funny that “another heavyweight” is approaching.
For this reason, we have to understand in a sporting way that many look at us with hostility. We ignore this and apologize for their initial reluctance. We always want to have fun and if he doesn’t accept our open door to fun, they miss him. And if, moreover, she is badly brought up with us, let us have pity on her lack of tact; we will already find someone educated who deserves our attention.
4. Worth it!
We return, with our group of friends, happy and satisfied because we have unmasked another aversion. It didn’t affect us at all and we had fun with failure as well, however our friends think differently: They tell us that we are ridiculous by behaving like this and that we shame others; we have to do what they do and not try to be what we are not. We bowed our heads and silently thought they were right: we vowed not to approach a girl for the rest of the night.
If our friends have paid a ticket to keep drinking, watching life go by in front of their noses and all they can do is put a stick in our wheels, that’s their problem, not ours. We don’t have to be ashamed of our interest in meeting new people and have fun with it. And if they don’t get it and keep laughing at us, maybe we should start thinking about who our friends really are.
5. This is a den
We spent over an hour in this place, looked around and found that we didn’t like the music played by those who attended the party.
It is important to choose the places where we go because our main goal is enjoy and feel comfortable. If we don’t like music and feel like we have nothing in common with anyone, we’ll feel like “weird bugs.” Next time, we’ll have to think better about what we want to go. This will make it easier for us. If we have things in common with the participants, it will be easier to sense one of them and we will probably have more things to share with them, and therefore it will be easier for us to strike up a conversation, for example , on tastes and hobbies.
6. I need one more drink
To try to disinhibit and start to show ourselves more social, we invest money and time in to drink alcohol.
Drinking won’t help us. This may make us feel more sociable temporarily, but it will cause us to lose control of ourselves and, if we get drunk, the only thing we will get is to increase our chances of being rejected by drunkards. Drinking should be a social act, not a necessity. We don’t use the drink as a drug let alone as an excuse for our failures by saying “don’t tie because she was getting too drunk”. We learn to overcome fear without the need for narcotics. Being in control of our social skills will help our self-confidence and our ability to relate to others.
7. Sex is the most important thing in the world
There are five minutes left at the disco to close, we met a few girls but that is not enough for us: we want to go home accompanied because we haven’t slept with anyone for a long time and, we think if we don’t we will be lost because the sex is the best in the world.
Despair and need they are not at all attractive. We need to understand that sex is another motivation for life, but no one died for not having sex. There are four main reasons that move human beings: hunger, thirst, sleep and sex. If we don’t eat for a long time we die, if we don’t drink for a long time we die, if we don’t sleep for a long time we will die and if we haven’t had sex for a long time, nothing happens because no one died for lack of sex, And the species will not disappear either if we do not have sex.
We need to start valuing other things, besides sex, that make us feel good; how to play sports, have fun with friends, study, learn to play an instrument… We have to base our self-esteem on things which depend only on us and sex is not one of them. We are no less interesting or less men for not having sex every weekend.
8. I hate girls, they are all the same and I will die alone
We are in the metro, on the way home, alone or with our friends, and we don’t even have the strength to get up. Let’s take a look at how the night went and the last force we have we invest in them to draw one conclusion: I hate girls!
Misogyny and masculinity have never attracted someone with stable self-esteem, and on top of that, we will undermine our future interactions. Protecting our self-image in this way will make us feel good then, but no matter how many times we say it a thousand times, we won’t be right. Girls might think that of us too. They might think that there are no boys who know how to treat girls and that we are all the same.
It will be better for us to invest our energies in thinking about what we have done wrong and how we can correct our mistakes and improve ourselves in future interactions. And also, we think about the good times; in which we laughed with our friends, in that song that we love so much and we danced like there was no tomorrow. Let’s rejoice that we have approached a girl and overcome our fears a little more. Let us rejoice that we are becoming more and more like that person we want to become.
In short, it is necessary learn to go out for fun and not to flirt. Untied, should be the tagline of this article. Being afraid of the results will make us overemphasize something as simple and harmless as meeting new people.
Learn how to develop ours social skills it is a slow process which is likely to be full of successes and also failures. Celebrating our successes and learning from our failures will lead us to create a belief system that works in our favor. Bonding is not the most important thing in the world, we have a life full of friends and loved ones to take care of, starting with ourselves.