Psychology is a science that attempts to explain how people’s minds, brains and behavior work.And scientific studies in this discipline are often curious, as are the findings of much research.
One of the topics that generates the most interest in behavioral science is how we interact with others. In this article, we echo research that reveals how many people we should have intimate relationships with, whether within a relationship or sporadically.
Intimate relationships, a human need
Human beings are social beings and we are characterized by birth, reproduction and death. In order to be able to reproduce, human beings enjoy pleasant moments and with the person who attracts us, and although reproduction is a vital necessity for the survival of human beings, intimate relationships are not a cold or mechanical act, there is an emotional component that makes this moment amazing, unique and special.
Having sex, moreover, is health. The benefits of this practice are numerous: more emotional well-being, less stress, helps to lose weight, has a positive effect on our heart, etc.
How many people should we be having sex with?
As you can see, the health benefits are plentiful, but not everyone has the same opinion about intimate relationships. While some people think of sex with a liberal mindset, others prefer to marry virgins. Some people surely find it hard to believe that there are people out there who don’t have sex, but … what happens when we don’t have intimate relationships? You can find out in this article: “What happens to our body and mind when we have sex?”.
So there seems to be a variety of opinions on the number of individuals we should share a bed with at any given point in our lives. Regarding the question “How many people do we have to sleep with in our lifetimes?”A recent survey seems to have sought the answer to this question.
The ideal number of people we should sleep with is 10
According to Illicit Encounters, a UK dating portal, the number of people we have to sleep with is 10. To conclude, the company analyzed the responses of more than 1,000 people to whom it conducted a survey.
This fact is a middle number between what people think is too promiscuous and cowardly and what it is to not have enough experience in intimate relationships. 38% of female participants and 37% of male subjects stated that the ideal number at bedtime with someone was between 8 and 12. Therefore, there does not appear to be a difference of opinion between women and men.
Additionally, only 3% of women and 4% of men think more than 20 is the right number of people with whom to share our moments of maximum privacy.
We are more and more tolerant and adventurous
But these are not the only data provided by the subjects of this survey. But they were also asked about their interest in knowing how many people their partner had slept with. 35% of women and 30% of men responded that they like to know when they are starting a relationship.
This fact varies from generation to generation, with the less common showing the most interest and curiosity about the number of conquests of her boyfriend or husband.
Speaking of which, Cristian Grant, spokesperson for the company, explains: “We think more and more freely about intimate relationships and who we sleep with. Over the years, the generations become more tolerant and adventurous.”
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And … what about the frequency of intimate relationships?
The data from this survey concludes that the number of people we have to sleep with is 10, but that doesn’t say anything about the frequency of intimate relationships.
How many times do we have to do this per week to be happy? This is what a group of researchers from the University of Toronto in Mississauga in Canada asked. To test their hypothesis, analyze the sample of 30,000 subjects.
As the results showed, having an active sex life promotes happiness and well-being in the couple, but increasing sexual frequency in a relationship has a positive effect to some extent. In other words, having sex with your partner is important, but more is not always better.
- If you would like to know more about this research, you can read our article: “Does having a lot of sex make couples happier?”