As we are in the coronavirus pandemic, psychologists don’t want to leave you alone; my psychotherapy clinic does not close and is at your disposal for what you need; we work online and you can contact us anytime.
Working online is very beneficial for our patients, as we provide therapy at home, in a comfortable and informal way; moreover, in the case of couples therapy, the good thing is that when both members of the couple are at home all day (or much of the day if one of them has to go to work), It is very easy to book appointments for the patients and for us, the professionals, and have a relaxed and unhurried session.
However, I would like to emphasize that now is the perfect time to do online couples therapy. Working online is just as effective as working face to face, so if you need it, it’s a good idea to continue with the routines and therapies necessary for your well-being without leaving it impossible to get out. in the street to be an obstacle for that.
Couple and confinement
In the situation we are living in these days, it is quite normal for conflicts to arise in couples.As we live much longer, with new routines and in an alarming context. It is normal to face this type of conflict, and if we do not drag out a previous crisis, we will be able to successfully overcome any frictions or discussions that may arise.
Another thing different is that we are going through a delicate time in our relationship.. It is here that confinement is an unfavorable scenario for couples who were already dragging a kind of crisis or a previous unstable situation. Containment can exacerbate this type of crisis and lead us to a very delicate and unstable situation, which will be greatly aggravated by the fact that we must imperatively continue to live together.
Therefore, I would like to tell you that if you are in this type of situation, you think it is a good time to do couples therapy online. We must always see the positive side. As I mentioned earlier, it is an advantage to be able to have more time, to be able to do it from home, and more to have more availability to implement the exercises in the time that elapses between the sessions with me.
One thing I want to point out is the fact that in China, there is a very noticeable increase in divorces following childbirth. As with returning from summer or Christmas holidays, in our country there is also an increase in divorces after living together for several weeks more intensely.
In Spain the same can happen, that is, after childbirth there is an increase in the number of divorces, but I want to stress that separations do not happen by the mere fact of l ‘confinement or an excess of coexistence. , but they are the consequence of crises which drag on over time, of relationships which were already bad before, and which explode or worsen during detention.
This is why it is very important to detect if there are problems in your relationship, if there is a crisis in the love affair, and thus to know if we are ready to move the relationship forward. Lockdown Can Definitely Break Our Relationship, But If We Do Online Couples Therapy, It’s Possible that not only is the crisis overcome, but the relationship is also strengthened.
Online couples therapy method
I’ll explain how we do couples therapy online. First of all, you should know that therapy is carried out with both members of the couple, either separately or at the same time. We are using the Skype program, and we must have an Internet connection:
1. Cross interviews
What I do at the beginning are crossover interviews, one with one person and another with the other person, of about 15 minutes each. The objective is to cross the data and see that the initial problem is really clear.
2. Sitting together
Then we had a joint session where I set goals, how many sessions we will do, when we will work, etc.
3. Tasks between sessions
Given the current situation and everyone’s availability, I give tasks to be done between sessions in order to practice all aspects that arise in sessions focused on strengthening relationship weaknesses.
4. Monitoring progress
In most cases, with an average of 8-10 sessions, the problem is resolved.
5. The importance of commitment to therapy
A very important aspect before approaching therapy is that the people I will work with are fully motivated and give 100% to solve the problem. If for some reason I detect that this is not your case, or that it is not your time, do not worry, we will not start therapy, we will wait or look for other ways.
To know more …
You can watch this video, in which I explain in more detail the working method of couples therapy. As a psychologist, I specialize in couples therapy work and therapy with women who are emotionally dependent or have low self-esteem.
Remember that in the coronavirus crisis, we are not leaving you alone, we continue with Skype sessions, which are just as effective as in person anyway. We also do live on Instagram every Tuesday at 7pm. Contact us with any questions or queries via the contact details on this page. It is also possible to see more tips on this and other topics on my Instagram and on my Youtube channel.