Fortunately, society is now increasingly aware of the dangers of toxic relationships, i.e. those in which the action of one of the members of the couple aims to annul the other person.
However, it is important to remember that people involved in a love affair lose much of their ability to analyze their situation objectively, so it is common for people who are upset about their court or marriage to resist. to recognize this relational problem. dynamic. And in such situations, help is needed to understand and deal with the problems that arise from these links.
How are the relationships that can annul us?
Professionals in human psychology and behavior take into account a number of characteristic elements which, when used by one member of the couple, may even outweigh the other.
Below is a list of the most important characteristics that one of the members of the couple may ignore.
Jealousy in a relationship is one of the main sources of discomfort that can be reversed by one or both members.
Although this is sometimes a common response in some couples, the truth is that jealousy, when it is recurring and very intense, can indicate that we are facing a problem that can lead to situations of abuse. .
It is important to remember that excessive jealousy in a person is not so much about love but rather the need to control to the other person and that they can be the source of a toxic relationship.
2. Excessive control
Most abusive relationships are also based on controlling and submitting to the other person, a way to cancel her as an individual, reduce her self-esteem and make her a slave.
Some of the ways to control this may be to impose strict arrival times at the home, prohibit staying with friends or family, constantly commenting on the other person’s appearance or clothing, and prohibit the other person from wearing certain clothes. Activities.
Even if you don’t get to the bottom of it, some relationships are based on subtle control of one party over the other. In these cases it is also important preventing the other member of the couple from controlling us or preventing us from doing any activity in our daily life; and if necessary, seek help and immediately end the relationship.
The way to avoid a couple’s excessive self-control is to set their own limits and spaces where the other is not allowed to give an opinion or to control our will.
Another element closely related to the control of the couple are the impositions: imposition of future projects, personal tastes, etc.
Again, we need to claim our own rights and prevent the other person from forcing anything on us outside of our will, setting clear personal boundaries that should not be crossed.
For a relationship to work properly, you have to reach agreements or commonalities by consensus and never impose anything on the other.
4. Lack of respect
Disrespect is another classic way to annul the other member of the couple, and their constant presence can be the definitive sign that we are facing a toxic relationship or one based directly on abuse.
The disrespect can be subtle or very obvious, and can occur both in public and in private; in any case, these aim to humiliate the other person or to subject him to the will of the partner.
5. Relationship based on fear of rejection
Instilling fear of abandonment or rejection is also a mechanism for canceling out the other member of the couple, and is one of the most common forms of abuse.
One of the ways that fear can be presented as a relational mechanism is when one of the members has afraid to express their opinion on an issue for fear that the other person will get angry.
6. Unequal distribution of work
As in any other relationship, relationships must be based on equal rights and obligations.
An uneven distribution of household chores can be a sign of abuse or contempt for the other person and is also an effective way to overrule or humiliate their will.
Sharing common tasks, whether at home or with the children, is a sign of respect and consideration for each other and a good way to get deeply involved in ensuring the good future of the relationship.
7. Lack of empathy
Empathy is the ability to put yourself in the other’s shoes, and is an essential quality for the functioning of a relationship, as well as any other social interaction.
In this regard, it is important not only to be aware of the other person’s feelings but also to react accordingly and quickly to help them in any way possible whenever our partner is going through a period of discomfort or has had a tough day off.
8. Lack of recognition of merits
Like a lack of respect indifference to his feelings or the person’s achievements it is also a way of undermining self-esteem and generating a state of discomfort.
Being aware of your partner’s needs for affection or recognition and being attentive at all times to his success is a way of showing him affection and dedication.
9. Emotional blackmail
Emotional blackmail is a form of manipulation that is very common in some couples and is practiced by some people in order to get something in return.
This practice can lead to the cancellation of the blackmailed person. make her feel completely responsible for the well-being of the other.
10. Constant criticism
Some people, men and women, have tendency to constantly criticize their partners in everything they do or say, and often this form of relationship becomes an increasingly common mechanism as the relationship progresses.
Having a partner who regularly criticizes any aspect of us ends up being very negative psychologically and is a very effective cancellation mechanism.