If you are looking to have a marriage based on sincere love, trust and respect Consider These 10 Commandments of a Happy Marriage.
10 keys to enjoying a happy marriage
Consider these maxims and guidelines for building a complete and emotionally viable marriage.
1. Self love
It is impossible to love another person without first loving yourself. When a person does not love himself enough, he does not take care of himself, neither physically, nor mentally, nor spiritually.
He also doesn’t care about the other person, he only seeks his own immediate gratification, he has no emotional stability. He tends to feel inferior, from this comes sick jealousy, mistrust, assumptions, arguments, emotional co-dependency, misunderstanding and eventually the end of marriage.
On the other hand, these people can be very manipulative or easily manipulated, which is neither ethical nor dignified. He who has no love is nothing.
2. Love and respect can only give what you have
You can only receive what you give. If you love and respect yourself, you will also love and respect your partner. When you really love, you seek only the good for your partner because by hurting him you are hurting yourself, this represents pain. You have to fall in love, build and congratulate your partner on a daily basis.
It is firm hope, certainty and faith in the other. Without it, even friendship is not possible. To trust another person, it is essential to trust yourself; Imagine how you feel when you meet someone confident… That inspires confidence, right?
Trust is created, transmitted and felt. You need to build trust from the start, maintain it and grow it.
It gives more than what is expected of you. If your partner trusts you and you trust them, their marriage is more likely to last.
4. Assertive and empathetic communication
It is essential to express your emotions freely and voluntarily without restrictions or fears that the other person will get angry or feel bad. You need to seek them out to understand yourself and also to authentically understand how your partner is feeling.
- Do not judge
- Don’t criticize
- Do not get mad
- Do not infer or assume without basis
Most of the time, the human being spends it making value judgments, based on past experiences, generalizing or taking for granted current situations without having the proof. It creates discord: as you already take it for granted, you don’t empathize, you don’t ask and you assume it as reality. But that’s not the reality, it’s your reality based on assumptions your mind creates. At this point, you need to empathize and ask, using an appropriate tone of voice, to communicate that you actually care about what you’re talking about and want to know more.
5. Open-mindedness and unconditional acceptance
It must be maintained an open and receptive attitude to consider new ideas and opinionsknowledge and behaviors.
This is also based on forgiveness, because only forgiveness brings peace. Forgiving doesn’t just mean doing good to the other person; it’s also about doing good, and being good is priceless.
6. Innovation and sexuality
What does not grow dies, because routine is boring; mastering the art of innovation is synonymous with progress, and Progress is happiness in all areas of life, including marriage.
You have to create unique and unforgettable moments; having plans and goals together allows couples to strengthen the emotional bond and achieve successmay they remain united with the vision to grow personally, spiritually and financially.
8. Clear finances
It is important to budget how much they earn together, how much they spend and on what, how much they save and how much they invest.
Nobody owns anybody; “I love you, but I don’t need you” is feeling free to be engaged.
10. Harmonious relationship with your spouse’s family
It is not healthy for a newlywed couple to live in their parents’ house, with siblings, friends or family members, all alone it creates power struggles and resentments. Newlyweds need their own space to grow, love, and create a new awareness of being.