If in couple relationships the personality of each of its members greatly influences, it is nonetheless true that the habits that are shared are those that really make this bond of love work or not. We may not be too much like the person we dated, but if there are routines on a daily basis that make us feel a special connection, the emotional connection will be strengthened.
Decades ago, these healthy relationship habits could be walking, going to a specific quiet place, or just chatting. Today, a new routine very common in relationships is added to all these possible sources of shared well-being: watch tv series together. Plus, this routine has particular benefits, according to research.
Watching series and movies in pairs unites more
Times change and so do relationships. The development of new technologies has perhaps led to the formation of bonds of love between people from very different backgrounds, without circles of friends in common, but easy access to fiction on television or published on the Internet helps these couples to create their own stories, Shared anecdotes and, in general, all kinds of beliefs, opinions and emotions linked to the desire to follow the series together.
According to research, watching series at the same time becomes an emotionally meaningful experience that is experienced as something shared, much like what would happen if the couple were experiencing relevant first-hand events unfolding in their homes. close social circles. The fictional characters are part of their two lives, which makes them more united.
How do you know that? A team of psychologists from the University of Aberdeen, led by researcher Sarah Gomillion, devised a way to measure the effect that series, movies, and TV shows have on relationships, as we’ll see.
How was the study conducted?
For this research, the results were published in the scientific journal Journal of Personal and Social Relationships, psychologists recruited 259 students with stable partners (The average duration of these relationships was 16 months) for them to answer questions in questionnaires designed specifically for this research.
These questions focused on issues related to the level of satisfaction with the relationship, the amount of time spent watching TV series as a couple, and the number of friends shared with the couple. The theme of time spent reading books together was also included.
The results showed that people who shared more friends with the couple and used to watch more TV shows with the other person showed a higher level of satisfaction with their relationship. however, the link between watching TV together and feeling good as a couple was much more powerful in people who shared little or no friendship with each other. In particular, the high scores in terms of mutual trust and sentimental closeness stood out.
In a second part of the survey, 128 other people accompanied by a partner were taken as volunteers and, in this case, divided into two groups. The first group was asked to think about how many friends they shared with their partner, and the second group was asked to think about unshared friends.
Then all the volunteers answered the questions about the time spent watching TV and reading books with their partner. on the degree of motivation they felt to spend more time sharing these kinds of moments, And on their level of satisfaction with the relationship.
The results showed that those people who were more accustomed to sharing TV time with their partner and in turn were conditioned to think about their lack of shared friendships tended to show up. more eager to spend time watching series, movies and shows together, As if they knew it was beneficial for their relationship.
A little “blanket and hair” doesn’t hurt
Of course, this data is only an approximation of how moments of stopping together while watching series can reinforce the common experiences and references that we use in day to day life to express ourselves with the couple; more research is needed and whether there is a pure cause and effect relationship between this habit and the strength of romantic bonds.
Outraged, it must be remembered that any excess is bad, And almost certainly making those moments lying on the couch the main basis of a relationship may not be good (sooner or later mototonia will take its toll, if not before back pain). However, for now, we have more excuses to make a whole ritual out of this “cover and movie” hobby. The emotional life can appreciate it in the short term.