One of the great fears that unite most monogamous relationships is that the couple will be, or may be, unfaithful at some point. This fear is further heightened if one of the two knows that the other has been unfaithful on other occasions or even in the same relationship.
Therefore, a person who has experienced it infidelity on the part of his partner Can you be sure this will never happen again? In other words, is a person who has been unfaithful once again likely to be unfaithful again in this relationship and any other?
What are the causes of infidelity?
Traditionally, relationships considered monogamous are based on sexual, sentimental or emotional exclusivity. However, infidelity is a real fact that occurs in a large number of couples and in both men and women.
It is not easy to know the exact figures on the number of people who have committed one or more infidelities in their lifetime, as this is an often quite wrong answer with the intention of maintaining a good social image. Even in private psychology or sexology consultations, people cannot always confess their infidelity.
While the main issue for this article is to clarify whether someone who has committed infidelity is more likely to do so again, both in their current relationship and in subsequent relationships, let’s take a look at the risk factors first. that influence when a person is unfaithful. .
According to various relationship research, there are a number of common risk factors when committing infidelity. These include:
- Under degree of commitment with the current relationship.
- Decrease or lack of satisfaction.
- Acceptance of sex outside of the relationship.
- unsafe condition, avoiding the anxious.
- Individual differences in levels of sexual inhibition and arousal.
- Higher incidence in men than in women (Although this factor changes over time).
Personality, background and other variables
Outraged, the personality and character of the person it also largely modulates all of the risk factors mentioned above. Generally, hedonistic people with self-centered tendencies and a high need for positive rewards will be more likely to commit more infidelities throughout their lives.
Likewise, the context in which the couple lives can also have a powerful effect in making life easier for a person on the adventure. In other words, if the only thing that holds the two people together in a relationship is a mortgage or the children they both have in common, there will be a much better chance that one of the two (or both) ends up looking for connections outside. the couple .
However, there are no rules, patterns or defining symptoms that guarantee that a person must be unfaithful for sure.
Finally, when we are faced with the doubt of if an unfaithful person will be unfaithful for life or if, on the contrary, he is able to maintain a monogamous relationship in total exclusivity; researchers in psychology and sexology determine that there are no absolute laws, because recidivism is conditioned both by the personality of the person and by the reasons or causes which motivate it.
Who is unfaithful tends to repeat the betrayal?
Historically, studies of marital infidelity have focused on predictors of marital relationship in an attempt to determine what causes a person to be repeatedly unfaithful; through the development of retrospective and cross-sectional studies.
However, a recent study conducted by the University of Denver team and led by psychologist Kayla Knopp, conducted research in real time, and for five years, stable romantic relationships (Married and unmarried) on a sample of more than 1200 people.
However, the study was only intended to collect information from people who, during those five years, had experienced at least two different relationships, so the sample was ultimately reduced to over 400 people, both men and women. .
Occasionally (around six months) participants were asked the following question: “Have they had sex with anyone other than their partner since they started dating in earnest?”. In addition, they were also asked if they suspected that their current partner was having sex with other people.
Of course, the research took into account both the social desirability of participants and any consensual agreements they might have with couples when maintaining extramarital affairs.
The results obtained after five years of research revealed that 40% of the sample had had sex outside the couple, As much in the first only as in the rest of the relationships. Likewise, 30% of participants said they suspected or knew that their partner had indeed been unfaithful to them on some occasion.
While the chances of cheating on a couple are much higher if you’ve done so in the past, a person who is unfaithful in one relationship is not necessarily meant to be unfaithful in the next.
On the other hand, Knopp’s study also found that people who viewed their partner as unfaithful were more likely to think the same in subsequent relationships. They were also more prone to infidelity if they thought the couple was cheating on them or had cheated on them on some occasion.
In conclusion, the study determined that people who had been unfaithful in a relationship they were three times more likely to be unfaithful to each other, Compared to those who had not cheated on their partner at the start.
However, and as discussed at the beginning of the article, it is extremely difficult to determine the real odds that exist that a person who has been unfaithful once will be unfaithful for the rest of their life. The combination of factors: the main motivation for the first infidelity, the personality of the person and the state of the current relationship are the best predictors to try to find out whether a person can become unfaithful again or not.