Intelligence is one of the most important mental traits of those that have been studied by psychology. His high CI level (the indicator of intelligence level) has been shown to be related to being more likely to enjoy a long life, have access to well-paying jobs and in good health.
Now, what is the connection between intelligence and love? Several studies have been proposed to explore this fascinating relationship, and today we will see one that, in particular, focuses on the analysis the way smarter men approach marriage.
An advantageous trait in love
It makes sense that intelligence is something that allows us to adapt well to the environment, Because by definition, this feature is the ability to find solutions to new problems. The opposite of solving a situation by resorting to routine and memorized actions by custom is intelligence.
However, it is also true that under this concept so famous there is a certain ambiguity. What exactly are the mental skills that work in a particular situation to achieve a goal? Is it the same intelligence which acts during the resolution of a mental calculation operation as that which intervenes to understand a text of philosophy? The answer is yes and no: intelligence is a set of mental processes, and every moment some become much more important than others.
Now, what does it mean to be smart in romantic relationships? In this case, it should be borne in mind that gender roles today continue to have a lot of influence on the way most people behave in their relationships and in their marriages. That is why it is worth differentiating by gender. In this case, we will focus on what happens to men, their marriages and their IQ level through research conducted by a team of Finnish psychologists led by Jaakko Aspara.
Economy or affectivity?
It has long been known that smarter men are more likely to marry. However, this does not mean that intelligence is an element which strengthens the emotional bond which binds these men to their partners; it could also be the result of a side effect of having a high CI: higher income levels.
After all, if a man chooses better jobs to be smarter, he will also have a greater ability to be able to provide resources to start a family (especially when, due to inequality, many women cannot. not contribute). life together).
The researchers led by Aspara therefore wanted to see if it was a greater ability to emotionally manage relationships, And not the family economy, which explains this greater success in marriage.
Additionally, they wanted to see what kind of mental sub-skills encompassed in the concept of intelligence make these men perform better in life with their partner. To conduct the study, Aspara took advantage of the large amount of data collected by the Finnish government: data on income, marital status and CI of all men living in the country (the latter data, following tests that men spend during military service).
As expected, smarter men tended to be more likely to marry and stay married 4 years later. This effect was maintained even when the influence of economic income was excluded. In fact, although the economy has played a larger role in predicting the odds of getting married, intelligence was more intelligent when it came to predicting the length of marriages.
And which mental skills were most important to the health of the marriage? To find out, the researchers went from taking into account the CI, as a measure of general intelligence, to that of the scores on the parts of the test which, separately, measure these specific capacities: logical, numerical and verbal reasoning. Verbal skills they are clearly the ones who best explain the possibility of having long marriages.
The importance of communication in the couple
One explanation for this is that verbal skills allow for better communication in relationships in general and in marriage. It would be very informative because it would mean that most relationship conflicts are, in fact, a matter of miscommunication. Of course, developing better with language also makes it very easy to seduce, which increases the chances of starting a stable relationship.
In short, if the smartest men make better husbands, it seems no longer because of their ease of speaking, but because of their ease in connecting with their partners, making them achieve their own way of seeing them. things and their interests.
- Aspara, J., Wittkowski, K. and Luo, X. (2018). Types of intelligence predict the likelihood of getting married and staying married: large-scale empirical evidence for the theory of evolution. Personality and Individual Differences, 122, pages 1-6.