We live in a society where screens have invaded our lives: Television, computer, tablet and mobile phone.
And not only that, it seems like we need these electronic devices in our daily life to work, talk to friends all the time, hang out … We always wear one on top, and this has led to the age of immediacy in which we want to receive instant messages, to let us know exactly where our order is online or to make that call for work. Not to mention social media (which seems like the only way to socialize today), overbooking the apps we have for absolutely everything, games, fitness tracker, etc.
What can you do to help your children hang up?
Who hasn’t heard that the more we are connected, the more we disconnect from what we have around us? Well this is still true for some people who are always immersed in the screen, even when they are with other people. And that can lead to conflicts with friends and even family, like being on Instagram at a Christmas dinner party or answering business calls on days off for example.
So, dear reader who as a parent puts his hands on his head thinking that his son or daughter keeps updating Instagram, watching stories or uploading photos, as well as whatsappearing with his friends and send audios, I bring you 5 tips to make screens interfere as little as possible with your family life.
Sit down and talk seriously to your children. Don’t be afraid to approach them and let them know your concerns. Learn about the dangers of social media and the benefits; as a parent, you are responsible for bringing the world to your little ones and warning them, warning them, and teaching them their good and bad things.
Make sure you explain it thoroughly and understand it correctly, connect with his emotions, and don’t cut yourself off from the examples.
2. Agree on limits and timetables
Come to an agreement with them regarding the hours they spend on screens. Of course, they must be hours adapted to the age, Because a teenager, for example, will want to use their cell phone more (to talk to friends and socialize on networks) than a 7 year old boy or girl.
It is important that these are not schedules imposed by parents, but that the views of children count; you will have to negotiate and think about what the screens may need on certain occasions to do a job or search for information.
Also, keep in mind that you will be working sometimes or with your friends, and you won’t always be able to make sure they stay on schedule. So I recommend that you don’t worry and try to keep it under control all the time. It is not a question of imposing strict rules, but of finding a balance and for them to learn to regulate themselves.
In this regard, remember that there are stages of growth where younger people try to distance themselves more from their parents and connect more with their peers. An example could be: no cell phone during meals, or no screen before going to bed.
3. Spend quality time together
Take the opportunity to spend more time with your family and do things together. Try to do things that everyone enjoys during this time, that you can switch activities, agree on what activities you will be doing, and make sure all of your votes and opinions count as well.
During these moments together, build bonds, share your daily life, your worries and more. You can go from watching a movie together to taking a guided tour, the possibilities are endless!
4. Offer them alternatives
He thinks the cell phone is an easy and comfortable remedy for boredom. Social media gives us fast and varied entertainment. We can even view stores, update news, talk to friends from mobile. Remember, this is not a negative tool, although spending a lot of time with it has multiple benefits.
This is why the competition with this handset is so tricky, but if you keep your mind occupied on other entertaining tasks, cell phone usage decreases.
I recommend puzzles, reading and writing, painting, signing up for extracurricular activities, going out with friends, museums, organizing social activities, board games, etc.
5. Give an example and be congruent
It’s hard to try and get your kids to spend less time on their cellphones if they see their parents at home using it all the time. Thus, it is important to introspect and assess what our children can learn from our behaviors.
I know sometimes we need the cell phone for work, but we have to remember that the agreed limits and times are for everyone, it is not worth my child to leave the cell phone at dinner if I answer to professional calls at this time.
We must learn to find a balance in the use of new technologies and social networks in family life, always adapting to circumstances and showing flexibility.