How does poor family reconciliation affect parenthood?

Family reconciliation is the ability of each worker to integrate their daily professional life and the demands of their work with their family and personal life, allowing them to have a common life with their family beyond work.

In this direction, the possibility of harmonizing private and professional life this should be a primary requirement in all work settings; However, many people these days fail to successfully manage the difficult balance between work and family, and some even come to feel guilty for dedicating quality time to their own.

Therefore, family reconciliation has first-order psychosocial implications, which is particularly evident when the worker has young children to raise. Therefore, in this article we will deepen the topic of how poor family reconciliation influences parenthood.

    Here’s How Insufficient Family Reconciliation Impacts Children’s Education

    A satisfactory family reconciliation has a positive effect both on the worker who is able to achieve it and on the members of his family, who will feel taken care of and their material and emotional needs will also be satisfied. This implies both having enough free time to devote to the family, as well as having the ability to coordinate schedules with the rest of its members in order to live with them in an efficient and not purely formal way.

    However, in homes where parents cannot or have difficulty achieving proper family reconciliation, a series of long-term effects on their children’s upbringing can occur that influence many aspects of their lives. daily.

    1. Feeling of abandonment

    Poor family reconciliation almost always leads to the abandonment of many of the functions that parents should fulfill with regard to their children, which it can be perceived by the latter as a lack of responsibility or indifference or disinterest in their well-being.

    Faced with this apparent indifference on the part of the parents, it is common for children to develop a more or less intense feeling of abandonment which can affect the person more or less depending on the personal characteristics of each child.

    This feeling of abandonment can be linked to the development of a series of psychological alterations in the boy or girl that can have negative consequences on their personality and mental health in the future.

      2. Excessive child-rearing demands

      Some parents who fail to find a balance between their personal and professional life find it very difficult to spend time with their children and fail to find times of the day to spend time with them.

      So that children are not left alone for long hours of the day, their parents are used to practicing parenting that requires their children always being busy doing all sorts of extracurricular activities, with hardly any time to rest or play with children their own age.

      In addition to this, parents who are very busy with their work during the day also tend to demand that their children be more independent than they should be for their age.

      3. School performance deficits

      Neglecting your own children can cause them to develop problems of all kinds, including in their daily school or academic performance.

      This can mainly affect younger children who, without the support or supervision of their parents in school matters, their performance and grades in school can decrease, in addition to feeling less motivated in relation to their education. to not understand what they get from this process.

      In other cases, the child may simply stop studying or making efforts, considering that his parents do not care about him or even that they do not like him, and therefore he adopts a revenge mentality and criticizes him for doing the opposite of what he is asked to do.

        4. Over-pamper children

        As we have indicated, poor family reconciliation causes many parents to abandon their duties in relation to the daily responsibilities they have with their children.

        Faced with this lack of attention and affection, some parents tend to pamper their children to “compensate” for their long absences, for example by giving them everything they want, when they want it.

        This ends up affecting the development of children, who grow up in an overly permissive family context.something that in the future will bring them problems dealing with negativity in the real world that may cause them discomfort or frustration.

        5. Tendency to overprotect

        Among parents unable to balance work and family life, there may also be a general tendency to be overprotective when they perceive that their children are exposed to risks by being away several hours a week from home,

        This overprotection decisively affects the growth of children and this ends up generating in them a personality based on the fear of the unknown in lifein the lack of self-confidence and the inability to meet challenges or step out of one’s comfort zone.

        6. Alterations in child development

        Many alterations can occur in the normal functioning of the child faced with parents who do not know how to properly reconcile their professional and family life.

        In general, in front of absent parents, children they can end up developing attachment problems, insecurities of all kinds, fears, phobiasand all types of significant psychological alterations.

        Moreover, it can happen, especially in teenagers who eventually develop a rebellious personality and who can end up having addictions to substances of all kinds.

        Some of the psychological alterations that boys and girls whose fathers are absent can develop can be anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, depressive symptoms, trauma or phobias.

        In addition to this, obsessive-compulsive disorders, fears, eating disorders, and other mental health imbalances may also develop, resulting from fear of abandonment, low self-esteem, or simple boredom for long periods of time.

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          Bibliographic references

          • Berk, LE (2012). Infants and Children: Prenatal to Middle Childhood (7th ed.). Allyn & Bacon.

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