How to endure detention with children

The current situation due to the COVID-19 virus has caused enormous changes in the world. It is clear that we are going through a situation that we could describe as “exceptional” and which will lead us to stay at home for an extended period of time.

I confinement and staying for hours in a closed place is already a difficult task for anyoneWe can imagine how difficult and frustrating it can be for children. Sometimes it’s the little ones in the house that give us a sign of passing and we see that we may even have a worse time than them, but the truth is, even so, the current situation can make it difficult to live together. at the family level, emotions that are difficult to control arise.

In this article, we offer some guidelines for feeding endure in the best possible way the stay at home with boys and girls.

    How to get through confinement at home through the pandemic with children

    However, these guidelines are only a guide to guide you in handling certain situations, but if in your case you feel overwhelmed by the circumstances, do not hesitate to consult with Mariva professionals and psychologists, we will be happy to help. help you.

    1. Explain what is happening

    A common mistake is to try to “catch up” or not explain why we are at home.. It is true that we can always make our stay more bearable and try to play to imagine that we are locked in a special mission, but it is still important that the children understand why we should remain closed, both for their safety and for the sake of it. to naturalize they can also accept this situation.

    We will always have to adapt our language to the age of the child and explain what is going on in words that he or she can understand.

    When explaining what we are going through, it is common for children to have doubts: “Shall we die? How long do we have to stay? Can I get infected?” It is important that we try to resolve your doubts by being realistic and offering tight answers and always with a positive approach. When we do not know an answer, we will tell them, “The truth is, it is not yet known.” It is important that they also know the protocol to follow to prevent infections.

    2. Maintain schedules and routines

    After a week of “readjusting” routines, the usual thing is that online lessons or distance homework are already available in schools. As far as possible it is good that we do not change the usual schedules they had before the start of childbirth.

    There are things we can be flexible about, but it’s good that we try to keep the schedules and routines inside the house: times for getting up and going to sleep, eating, doing homework, etc.

    3. Naturalize emotions

    If we said we have to stay calm and pretend nothing is happening, we would be lying. We live in an exceptional and unusual situation, a situation of alert, so it’s normal and adaptive that there are times when we feel fear, anguish, anxiety, sadness or hopelessness. It’s good that we talk about it with our sons and daughters so that they understand that what they are feeling is normal in this situation, but that they will be able to adjust little by little to a greater or lesser extent. measured.

    As adults, we will also experience these emotions and we must try to control them while accepting that they are part of the adaptation process.

      4. Organize the time

      Sometimes, spending so many hours at home can lead to boredom and anxiety for adults and children. this it’s time to try and do those activities you didn’t have time for before: Play sports, read, watch a movie, organize cupboards, make recipes, play with the family, etc.

      A very necessary thing is to be able to occupy time to do activities. If we have an outdoor space like a balcony or terrace, we can do outdoor activities. If not, you can try doing relaxation exercises, physical activity and games to visualize yourself in an open space. This will make the stay inside more bearable.

      5. Give us our own space

      After days and days all together on a few square meters, it is easy for there to be more talking, as well as an increase in negative emotions, which is why family and cohabitation conflicts can arise. for that it is important that at the same time that we are doing family activities we can all have our own space and time.

      It is good to spend a few minutes a day alone, for example: try to extend the shower for a few more minutes, listen to music with headphones and focus on our breathing, leave the little one in a room to play alone and relax. relax, etc.

      It should also be noted that in this situation, it is easy for our children not to perform to the maximum or not to focus on homework. It is necessary to normalize this, if for you who are an adult it is difficult and it is difficult for you to achieve the same performance, for them it can be even more complicated. That is why you have to be patient and try to be flexible with them.

      Are you looking for support?

      Here are some guidelines for use in the home, but each person may need different tools and techniques to manage the condition of the alarm. This is why it is essential to try to identify what our child needs and to come up with a solution to every problem that arises.

      It should be noted that while it is normal to experience certain emotions and concerns, if you feel that the situation is overwhelming you or that problems that you had previously controlled reappear, you can consult a professional to help you manage your emotions. of Psychologists Mariva we are currently continuing to work through telematic means such as video calls to continue to help you in any way we can. To see our contact details, click here.

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