How to support gay teens

Homosexuality remains a stigma in the vast majority of countries in the world, not to mention that it is in practically all. Tradition-based beliefs, which dispel an essentialist and unscientific view of what human sexuality is, that some people being homosexual involves going against nature (although that doesn’t mean anything).

The effects of discrimination against non-heterosexual sexual preferences they are especially fierce with gay teens, Who are in the process of forging their own identity and are more vulnerable to attacks that damage their personality and prevent them from expressing themselves as they are.

    Tips for supporting gay teens

    In the following lines we will see some guidelines to follow to help you that gay teens around us feel accepted, supported and respectedIn addition to trying not to be afraid to show off their tastes and preferences like anyone else would.

    1. Learn the basics of gender and sexuality

    This step is crucial because it will avoid any confusion in the relations with these young people. The fact that for centuries it was considered “normal” is heterosexuality has made this associated with many other things related to sex which were also considered normal and socially desirable.

    For example, there are those who understand that to be homosexual is to feel a sex that does not correspond to what their genitals denote, or to have attitudes and actions associated with those of the sex opposite to theirs.

    Thus, a distinction must be made between biological sex, sexual orientation, gender identity and gender roles. Gender identity is the gender with which a person’s identity is associated (although there are also people who do not identify with any), and gender roles are the set of tasks, actions and styles of behavior that have been socially assigned to a gender.

    2. Keep in mind that homosexuality is not something exotic.

    A gay teenager cannot be treated like a museum piece. In other words, behaviors like asking a lot of questions about her lifestyle and sexual preferences. It’s one thing to worry about getting comfortable, and it’s another to be overwhelmed. remember their orientation over and over again; in this context, it is normal that he considers that there is something strange in him.

    3. Help him understand that he is not responsible for the discrimination

    Unfortunately, it is still normal for homosexual people to suffer psychological or even physical assault because they are. But the main detrimental effect of this is usually not the acute discomfort generated by each attack, but the way in which these experiences can lead to thinking about oneself. The Just World Theory he tells us that there is a tendency to think that in the face of obvious cases of suffering, it is likely that the victim has done something to deserve it, and this also applies to self-conception.

    So, in the face of continuous attacks, the idea that if there is so much hate, it must be for a legitimate reason, it is gaining strength, and this not only undermines self-esteem, but leads to confusion over what we are and what we are. It must be done to deserve to live in peace.

      4. Listen to your real concerns

      Each case is unique, so you need to know how to adapt to the person you are dealing with. In the case of young homosexuals, it’s easy that stereotypes make us take for granted things that really aren’t.

      Therefore, we need to listen carefully to what they say about themselves, without letting our beliefs and patterns distort the content of their message. Only in this way will we be able to properly support gay adolescents and without falling into simplifications.

      5. Promote their integration into groups, but do not force them

      In adolescence, it is very important to feel accepted by a group. Unfortunately, young people of the new generations do not have to be more respectful than adults with diverse sexual orientations. In fact, in the case of men, there is a toxic masculinity that makes abuse frequent which comes out of the prototype to be harsh, violent and of course heterosexual.

      This is why it is good to help those young people who are more likely to be excluded to find a group in which to fit in properly. However, they should be respectful of their preferences and interests, and not be forced to fit them into a specific group if they do not want to.

      6. Shows references beyond heterosexuality

      It is very positive that teens find references that inspire them to develop their personality. In this sense, meeting someone who is gay and displays positive or even admirable values, is beneficial because it shows that this sexual orientation should not be a reason to be ashamed.

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