Patricia was making dinner and had just made a homemade tortilla that she had learned to make last Christmas, a recipe her sister had passed on to her and which originally came to her from her maternal grandmother, her pastry skills were very appreciated in his family. .
Meanwhile, her 4-year-old son Martin watched the procession of the Magi on television; they usually attended concerts every year but it was raining and windy that night so they decided to stay home.
Martí turned to his mother and asked her: “Mom, do you believe in magi?. It took a while for her to respond, not because she wasn’t clear, but because she was distracted by his thoughts. In previous years, he had had a bittersweet sensation accompanied by a strange sting as he watched his son’s face as he watched King Balthasar, his favorite, parading in the chariot.
However, this year was no longer happening to him. He had been in family therapy for several sessions; there, guided by the therapist and with the involvement of her family, she had gone through a process of knowing herself which had enabled her to understand the reason for these feelings: when she was little, Christmas was celebrated at the home with great joy. from his mother, however, his father did not understand why it was necessary to decorate the house and give gifts, for him it was all a joke, and then he saw only materialism.
As a child, Patricia remembered a scene at home while listening to a story about the wise men: she heard her father, a little affectionate and a little demanding man, comment in a low voice that he did not understand that children were cheated in this way when it was clear that they were just men in disguise.
This skeptical attitude on her father’s part met with Patricia’s enthusiasm and desire to believe, and although at the gallery until last year she always displayed her best smile, in the spirit of Noel had not fully penetrated. . In other words, Patricia, from a young age, unconsciously learned that in order to remain faithful to her father and become attached to him, you had to be like him, which meant not believing in the magic of the holidays.
Should we pass on the existence of the Magi to children?
The world of children is different from that of adults; toddlers have the ability to view life from the perspective of magic and illusion, and sometimes at certain ages they can even confuse fact and fiction.
However, as we get older society is concerned with making us see clearly the difference between fantasy and reality. It’s a necessary maturing process, but it’s one thing to grow up and it’s another to lose the ability to dream. A lot of adults never spend time playing, someone once said, “We don’t stop playing because we get older, we get old because we stop playing. “
Parents keep the tradition of giving gifts every Christmas and pass it on to future generations. Maybe we think we are fooling children when we tell them about the existence of beings who are not really a part of reality? Are we betraying their trust in us as parents? How will they face the disappointment offered by harsh reality in the future? Will they feel disappointed or even cheated by their parents, the most important people in their life?
Defenders and detractors
There are those who defend the idea that it is counterproductive to create this false belief, because sooner or later they will have to land in reality, so they consider that it makes no sense to delay it. However, if their wings are cut off at an early age: how can we expect them to grow up to be hopeful adults? what kind of adults do we expect from them?
Anyone of us going back to our childhoods will in most cases remember the excitement he aroused as the Christmas holidays approached and yes, probably when he found out who the real magi were, he s. felt a little disappointed.
Personally, I thank my parents and the adults who with this good intention have helped me to maintain the excitement every year, these nerves which crossed me the day before, that exciting feeling of going to bed and getting up with joy to find some surprises in the living room …
Many educators consider it beneficial for children to maintain this tradition, because they are at a stage where magic, enthusiasm helps them to develop their creativity and abilities, to believe in their dreams, to trust, so when adults look back, this magical feeling will serve as an inspiration to be surprised by life.