Personal development: satisfaction, well-being and performance

If I pronounce the word psychology and stop briefly, in addition to one, I usually think of countless complications arising from the pathological conception we all have in mind, based on the absence of sanity. always linked, to that which said field.

In a positive sense, that is, the development of mental capacities that promote the proper functioning of our thoughts, Feelings and Behaviors, other types of recently coined terms such as the controversial concept of coaching are often used, as if this technique were not closely related to the fundamental goals of positive psychology.

And it is that each of us has a machine, perhaps the most powerful of all I dare say, which fortunately or unfortunately we do not have the instruction manual on its operation. We start only from the basis of a very common hardware, the software that we develop throughout life through the acquisition of experiences and vital learnings which ultimately determine our functional capacities.

Beliefs: Fact or Science Fiction?

Many examples can be drawn from the cinematographic context in this regard. Anyone who cares will remember how Will Smith helped develop his flirtatious skills with his clients in the movie “Hitch”. Or how Lionel Logue did the same when he overcame the stuttering that caused him to Duke George of York, speaking in public on the tape of “The King’s Speech”.

A little less known to the general public in its version of the big screen, perhaps “The Peaceful Warrior” based on the autobiographical novel by Dan Milman, in which a mystic Nick Nolte, playing the “master” Socrates, collaborated in the learning of Scott Mechiowicz (Dan) to develop “the suspension of incessant mental dialogue, the abandonment of the ego and the experience of living fully in the present moment”.

Likewise, it is common to come across popular beliefs based on the stability and permanence of certain psychological characteristics, perfectly illustrated by expressions such as “I am like this” or “I have always behaved this way”. As if our interpretations, our judgments or our beliefs were determined by series, in an innate way, in terms of “we have or not one”, without addressing the possibility of development. Something that, on the other hand, happens with every new learning or experience that changes our neural associations and connections. In itself, the same belief that psychological change already opens the door for it to happen on its own.

To make these changes effectively, we have a number of steps necessary to be able to make them successfully. The first and perhaps the most difficult would be to learn to take it less seriously, when it comes to seeing ourselves as a trusted source of knowledge, because as a rule we are all subject to changes in our emotional states they affect. our criteria of interpretation over time, being able to manage to develop real barbarities in the form of belief, in ourselves or in our capacities.

Being able to frequently resist the opinions or beliefs of others with whom we disagree, we have a harder time doing the same with those we develop ourselves, putting into practice the maxim “if I think it will be because it is true”.

Overcome for personal development

Another fundamental step needed to move forward would be the will to let go of our old dysfunctional beliefs, like the child who refuses to let go of his old toys with which he hardly enjoys any more.

And it is not so much a question of analyzing the “why” or the veracity / falsity of our approaches., How to change our analysis criteria for others based more on the “why” or taking into account the usefulness / uselessness that certain thoughts bring us in a more practical sense, when it comes to ” achieve our change goals.

Overcoming this first phase of change consists first of all in developing the insecurity of what he believed to be walking on earth and discovered himself in marshy terrain. However, the enthusiasm and motivation generated by the desired change more than sufficiently justifies the initial state of uncertainty.

With UPAD Psychology and Coaching, it is possible to meet new challenges through their personal development processes. The work of beliefs will be essential to face with guarantees these new changes which allow the client to reach high levels of satisfaction, well-being and performance.

“When nothing is certain, anything is possible” (Margaret Drabble).

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