Our parks have fallen silent and the celebrations of laughter, laughter and defiance abruptly receded. Screens have sprung up in homes and technological and virtual leisure activities have conquered our living rooms and living rooms.
Faced with a complex and alarming situation, the first answers that arise are pure survival, responses that lasted and left their mark and side effects.
Now it’s up to us to take up the exterior and the relationship; I would always say, but especially in childhood and adolescence, the free movement and connection in the relationship is essential to fill us with a vibrant energy to take an interest in the world, explore and conquer developmental goals. There is no offline relationship.
The importance of play in our development
From different philosophical, biological and psychological approaches, they recognized the value of play in child development, especially head-to-head play.
All mammalian puppies enjoy contact play, staring, roaring. These face-to-face games allow learning and social improvement.
In these face to face interactions, battles and clashes are generated which involve risk. In this interaction between the pairs, they encourage each other, the energy grows, and so the animal and human puppies they actively explore and generate unexpected, surprising and stimulating situations through play.
These situations sought out or which occur may involve risks, challenges and dangers encountered in the game; either in battles with monsters or with enemies that lead to war, war and death.
Dealing with these situations allows you to experiment with new adaptive responses, as well as negotiate agreements and rules.. Doing all this learning in the secure environment of the game is an advantage.
Emotional implications of gambling
Chateau (1967) argued that through play, morality develops. By accepting, by following an elaborate rule in the game, for the common good of the players, the children they express and form the human capacity to create a community, a civilization. Morality develops through social interactions with peers during play.
Play promotes fun, enjoyable, satisfying and joyful experiences. An emotion that facilitates both emotional and cognitive openness.
These satisfying and playful experiences promote resilience, as they promote the development of creativity by opening up the possibility of interpreting and experimenting with new, unexpected solutions to problems that arise during play. Play trains the ability to think in a way. flexible and creative in the face of the changing demands of the game itself.
The dynamic play of childhood forces the players, protagonists of the action, to adapt, especially in moments of intense emotion or stress, the activation of children’s play. The game promotes adaptation to uncertainty because in itself it is unexpected and we cannot anticipate the course it will take.
So, play promotes and increases cognitive and emotional versatility, especially in times of loss of control and maximum stress. If in those moments when there seems to be no way out and creativity gives the game an unexpected twist that excites and frustrates, the very dynamics of the game force you to deal with those emotions; in addition to continuing with the fabric of the game, sometimes fun and sometimes scary.
Social implications of gambling
One of the games that has received the most attention is role-playing. This game makes us play, dream of being a hero, a villain, a firefighter, a teacher, a thief. Through the interpretation of characters and different roles, children can develop empathy.
Empathy is that ability to see and experience the world through the eyes and shoes of the other, of the playmate, who in this created world may be an atrocious foe or a staunch ally.
Throughout this interaction of play, the child learns to discover the motivations of others, to understand other perspectives and needs and to take them into account in the interrelation.
Studies and research on gambling have shown the relationship between play and the ability to regulate and control behavior. Preschoolers who play more or play more complex games score higher on various variables associated with self-regulation (Fantuzzo, Sekino & Cohen, 2004).
Self-regulation and self-control are related to the ability to calm thoughts and emotions or to control feelings, impulses or behaviors. And the ability to self-regulate is positively associated with good social and academic skills in childhood.
A foundation on which to grow emotionally
Among the greatest advantages of the game we find the possibility of creating countless experiences loaded with positive emotions, joy, satisfaction, pride, joy. Studies such as Carlson and Masters have shown the important role that positive emotions play in the face of subsequent negative experiences. Positive emotions behave as a protective agent generating a relieving effect in the face of subsequent negative experiences and emotions..
Thus, having an experience where positive emotions are experienced increases the possibility of emitting conflicting responses to adversity. (Tugade, Fredrickson & Barrett, 2004).
And how could it be otherwise, research shows what the body knows and sometimes parenting habits deny and that is that play promotes prosocial, social, cognitive and emotional aspects of child development, especially when adults participate in his children’s play, Fischer (1992).
We play, let them play, laugh, jump, cry and allow the energy of jubilation and life to spread throughout the body and flood homes and parks.
Yes we play we promote games with our children that involve interaction, connection, risks, challenges, rules, patience and also No action. Moments of boredom, nothing to do, nothing to see, no clips, and we make the time pass more easily.
We are looking for times without screens and without technology where they discover and connect with each other and with the adults present. We are present without being omnipresent.
Author: Cristina Cortés Viniegra, Director of Vitalizing Health Psychology. Psychologist specializing in juvenile infants.