Slow parenting, Is a style of parenting that promotes education based on the natural rhythms of children themselves, beyond insisting that they acquire knowledge as quickly as possible.
Since its inception, it has been viewed as an educational revolution, as it criticizes important critiques of hyperactivity-based parenting styles, and seeks to make children happy and content with their own successes, even if these will not. not the most successful of them. in the most popular nor in the fastest.
What is slow parenting?
Slow Parenting is also known as Simplicity Parenting. It is a parenting style based on lifestyles through which daily activities are performed at an appropriate pace, Without exerting pressure to advance the development of learning and skills.
In other words, far from being a movement that suggests doing all our activities slowly, it is an educational proposal that values quality rather than speed: Suggest that it is more useful to do things the best you can, than to do them as quickly as possible. Thus, he seeks to teach children the importance of achieving their own goals, beyond reaching them first.
Slow parenting occurs in response to the negative consequences of parenting styles based on speed and hyperactivity; This issue is also part of the Slow Movement, which discusses the tendency of our societies to equate success with speed.
A proposal in defense of slowness
The slow parenting proposition was born from a series of books written by Canadian journalist Carl Honoré, Which, in fact, never used the term “Slow Parenting”, but questioned the obvious obsession with acceleration that is characteristic of Western societies.
We tend to do things too fast i.e. our habits are heavily based on speed. Indeed, we consider the latter as a success factor: it is more interesting to arrive first; as the very process to achieve our goals.
The problem is, this is a lifestyle that ultimately impacts our health, emotional relationships, productivity, and creativity. In other words, being in a hurry directly affects our quality of life, so we should not pass the mentioned values on to children.
Although the author himself claims to have never used the concept of ‘slow parenting’, now that it has been extended he defines it as a way to create a balance in the house, Which is based on the following premise: it is clear that children need to develop and adapt to the different demands that each environment presents to them, but that does not mean that childhood is a kind of career.
Parents should give their children the time they need to explore the world on their own terms. So, Slow Parenting’s proposition is to let the little ones work according to their own needs, because these are a reflection of their true potential (and not of what we want adults to be, to do, to aspire or to obtain). .
It also means that children they will receive the attention and affection they need without being conditioned to the rhythms that we adults set in our adult activities.
Why has speed become synonymous with success?
Carl Honoré also explained that our tendency to educate quickly arose out of the need that we adults have to create a “perfect childhood”. The problem is that often this perfection is rather centered on the ideals of consumption.
For example, in the face of the widespread demand for “perfection” in Western societies, we are constantly looking for “the perfect house”, “the perfect occupation”, “the perfect car”, “the perfect body”, and they do not. can not miss “the perfect children”; which also meets the new needs generated by globalization: competition is the means of responding to crises and job uncertainties.
At the same time, Honoré points to the latest transformations in family models, where the number of children who have many partners in developed countries has decreased, which gives parents fewer opportunities to generate parenting experience.
Likewise, the age at which people become parents dramatically transforms educational styles. Faced with all this, it is common for parents to feel mistrust and uncertainty about their practices, and by not knowing how to create “perfect children”, they delegate the responsibility to specialists, tutors, etc. and they end up transmitting among themselves (between parents of different families) demands for perfection and the idea of childhood as competition.
Some Slow Parenting Suggestions
To start countering what we developed in the previous section, one of Slow Parenting’s proposals is to try to spend more time with the family, but making sure that the main activity is not shopping. , nor live around devices that don’t. facilitate interaction, such as television; but through truly interactive activities, which also leave room for everyone’s inactivity and rest.
Another suggestion is promote spontaneous play by children, Who starts from their own initiative and their curiosity for the elements of the natural environment in which they evolve. These make it possible to avoid imposing rigid models with content that often does not encourage the creative and curious potential of early childhood.
Finally, Slow Parenting seeks to help children develop the ability to deal with the unpredictability of the real world and get to know each other from an early age.
In other words, try to get children to recognize that everyday life is risky, And the most appropriate way to do this is to allow them to deal with it. Only then can they generate strategies to detect their needs, solve their problems, and seek help in the right way.
- Eldiario.es (2016). Carl Honoré’s philosophy of “slow”, the “global phenomenon” against the rush. Accessed May 10, 2018.Available at https://www.eldiario.es/cultura/filosofia-Carl-Honore-fenomeno-global_0_508499302.html.
- Belkin, L. (2009). What is slow parenting? The New York Times. Accessed May 10, 2018.Available at https://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/04/08/what-is-slow-parenting/.
- The Telegraph (2008). Slow Parenting, Part Two: Come on, parents, leave those kids alone. Accessed May 10, 2018.Available at https://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/3355928/Slow-parenting-part-two-hey-parents-leave-those-kids-alone.html.