Raising a son or daughter is in itself a challenge. If we add inexperience to this, the result can be a lot of psychological wear and tear.
Therefore, in this article we will see a summary of the problems that early parents often face and that they can overflow emotionally.
The most common problems with first parents
While having a child isn’t statistically extraordinary, it is still an experience as intense as, in most cases, demanding. Knowing how to follow the tasks to be accomplished in order to give the little one everything she needs is not easy.
these are the most common forms of discomfort for parents who must adjust to the need to raise their children for the first time.
1. Stress and fatigue
Fatigue is very common among first parents who are trying to adjust to the pace required to raise and educate a child (in combination with other responsibilities). it also has a shape in the mood. To this discomfort is added the stress, born of this dynamic in which parents are generally always on alert to support and protect their son or daughter. As we will see, stress and fatigue have a chain effect that fuels the onset of other problems.
2. Lack of sound
Meeting the challenge of motherhood or fatherhood for the first time is something that absorbs right off the bat, which means that if time use is not optimized, the hours spent sleeping soundly are affected. For example, the accumulation of tasks can cause us to go to bed late, and even though we technically lie down when playing, our brain’s activation prevents us from falling asleep properly.
3. Fear of doing things wrong
Another source of psychological attrition to consider is the fear of the possibility of harming our child.. Now, while the idea that toddlers are physically and psychologically delicate is justified in many cases, in others it is based on unfounded myths and fears. It is therefore important to be well informed and to have supervision in matters of parenting and support for the development of children.
4. Lack of sexual desire
The mix of fatigue and lack of time can affect a couple’s sex life, Which is often displaced by daily emergencies.
5. Different educational styles
Differences in values and priorities in raising a son or daughter can lead to discussions to manage. It is important that this situation does not turn into a struggle for the ego.
6. Asymmetries in the distribution of household chores
Differences in family responsibilities can easily arise in inexperienced couples. children’s education; at first it is difficult to have a holistic view of all that needs to be done and to reach a point of balance in the effort that both have to make.
What to do?
Cognitive-behavioral therapy it has proven to be an effective tool in overcoming the problems we have just seen. It is a very useful type of psychological intervention in adjusting to challenges that arise throughout life, both of establishing new patterns of behavior and creating new forms of behavior. »Interpret reality and manage emotions.
From weekly frequency sessions, parents who have difficulty adjusting to their role in front of a first child develop skills in emotion management, dialogue and consensus building, time management, and relationship building. goals and priorities, as well as improving psychologically healthy lifestyles.
Are you looking for psychological assistance?
If you wish to benefit from the professional support of a psychologist, I invite you to contact me. My name is Tomàs Santa Cecília and I am an expert psychologist in the cognitive-behavioral intervention model; I work to help individuals and professionals in person (in my Madrid office) and online via video call.
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