We are immersed in our environment. From an early age, we interact with it by producing a continuous reciprocal transaction, So the slightest mismatch can lead to anxiety in response, as a rebalancing mechanism, or to some degree of somatization in the form of indisposition, difficulty falling asleep, and other psychophysiological effects.
The insecure child
Particularly powerless in the face of these imbalances with the environment are the children under six.
His entire universe is in the domestic circle, which absorbs multiple external influences, for this reason the minor is constantly exposed to the pressure and the peculiarities of the social sphere in general and of the family nucleus in particular. Under certain conditions, insecure child syndrome can occur.
Causes of insecurity in childhood
Serious imbalances in their environment, such as the death of their parents, generate anxiety, sadness and can worsen into severe depression and painful experiences of insecurity.
Other seemingly minor changes such as a move, a lost pet, etc., can cause the same symptoms. At this young age, routine offers security, which is why situations that disturb this balance are experienced as a danger creating dissociation and images of anxiety.
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What is the transitional object?
The transitional object is generally a doll, a blanket, a pillow, a pacifier, Etc., which recalls and symbolizes the child’s family environment. When, due to circumstances, the child has to face resettlement, the transition object acts as an insurance tool, reinforced by the magical thinking of the little ones, preventing the alteration of their living environment. being excessive and feelings of insecurity and fear can be unbearable.
What does the object of possession tell us about the child?
It is an element of approval and acceptance of the new environment. It means positivity and good receptivity to the new context. The child and the transitional object rotate on the basis of insecurity. The device of the transitional object resides in the spatio-temporal alteration, so that the domestic atmosphere is migrated to another place, however, the object of possession is a rewarding object “in itself” since its own essence is particularly positive for the child. He is a partner of affirmation to face new horizons.
Most common signs and symptoms in insecure children
The experience of insecurity leads to regression to earlier stages of development. Some of the signs we can see in an insecure child are:
- Behavioral disorders related to hygiene I generally maternal dependency to run it. The insecure child tends to delegate his hygiene to the mother.
- Changes in emotional behavior: Emotional instability, disobedience, behavioral and physical aggression with other children, breaking elements for play. Sometimes the insecure child has opposite symptoms: shy, insecure, taciturn, passive.
- Changes in engine behavior: Recession in the evolution of movement, stopping the bipedal position, limping of walking, crawling, request to be carried in the arms, decrease in the ability to draw. Distortions of gait when moving, illogical poses, are also observed in insecure children.
- Behavioral changes when reading: They play younger roles, too much recurrence in the same game or fear.
- Affective behavior disorders: To demand to be for him, to cry, to constantly question questions he already knows, irrational fears.
- Behavioral changes in diet: Long chewing, primary swallowing, rash when chewing, gas, decreased basic skills such as using a spoon and fork, bad forms, selective repudiation, vomiting and reluctance.
- Presence of coercive behavior in masturbation.
- Behavioral changes in sleep: Restlessness, sleepy conversation (drowsiness), night terrors, frequent interruptions to sleep with parents crying and asking to leave the light on, asking to leave the door open and asking parents to be with him until he is falling asleep, opposed to going to bed, have them tell him a story with physical contact and resist falling asleep.
- Decreased school productivity: Problems of concentration in studies.
- Body and speaking difficulties: Grimaces and eccentric gestures, burlesque or tragic stumbling language.
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