In the following lines, we will discuss the subject of the self-image favorable to the school stage which corresponds to primary education, explaining how it tends to be the behavior of boys and girls who manage to incorporate good development from a young age. A description will also be given of the behavior of children when they fail to integrate a favorable self-image, so that parents can identify and distinguish when a child is experiencing difficulties in their emotional development.
And it is essential that the youngest are able to integrate a good self-image of themselves, and at the same time that the older ones attend in time (and preventively) the needs of their son or daughter to foster their healthy psychological development. , and to be able to support so that when he begins his adolescence he takes a more consolidated self-esteem; this will reduce the predisposition to conflict, behavioral problems, and academic and adjustment difficulties.
How is a good self-image for children?
A favorable self-image is the most important key point for success and happiness in anyone’s life. A boy or a girl, in order to have a healthy development, must form a favorable self-image; this one This will allow you to feel that you love yourself and, as a result, you will be able to take on stimulating challenges and activities that will enhance your learning and maturity..
Therefore, having the right self-image in childhood gives us confidence in our own abilities in a phase of life where curiosity and initiative to explore the environment are essential for knowing how the world works (and how. you work yourself).
It will help the little ones to learn to live together, to learn and to study, succeed in facing life with an open attitude, which makes it easier for them to access many opportunities.
Boys and girls who have a good self-image also manage to take criticism undisturbed, develop listening skills and learn from mistakes.
Children with a favorable self-image also feel confident to speak up and take certain (reasonable) risks by valuing what they want to say or do and dare to oppose their parents or teachers, or people in authority. they manage to feel that they can face obstacles without being distressed by their own doubts.
When faced with problems, they can solve them in an original and creative way because they can believe in themselves and like being able to achieve the goals they set for themselves. These are usually children who are significantly successful in the activities they enjoy; in turn, their successes renew their self-esteem, gaining the admiration and respect of others.
Behavior in children with an unfavorable self-image
The little ones who don’t have a good self-image these are children who generally feel uncomfortable wherever they go. They are insecure in a wide variety of situations, being shy, reserved or very shy; although they are tempted to motivate and support, they are not able to be open, which limits their mental and emotional development, affecting certain areas of their life, school and social by not being able to integrate into them. recreational activities (which are fundamental in the development and training of the primary school stage), and leading them to have low academic performance.
These are usually boys or girls who develop pessimistic thoughts about their abilities and who they are convinced that they cannot succeed; therefore, they do not attempt to perform specific tasks.
Moreover, they show little effort and always tend to show continuous errors when trying to make an effort; as a result, they suffer from loss of confidence and high levels of frustration, becoming a vicious cycle of failure and avoid trying again, expressing anger or sadness.
These little ones are very worried about whether they are doing the right thing. Sometimes this preoccupation can make them anxious, limiting their sense of achievement and causing them difficulty in paying attention and concentrating.
On the other hand, sometimes when doing manual activities, they are destroyed and overwhelmed by psychosomatic illnesses caused by anxiety.
Sometimes they strive to please others, and they can lose their own desires and continue to behave according to the desires of others; and this generates more insecurity in themselves.
How can parents prepare for the proper development of their children’s self-image?
It is important to establish healthy authority from an early age to set well-defined limits according to the school age of the children. In order for them to feel the limits in the care that their parents give them, rather than an arbitrary imposition that does not take into account their needs, feelings and desires, these rules must be clear and understandable.
too much you have to show respect, encourage and allow their children to individually express their tastes, desires or even their discomforts, achieve legitimization by being heard and understood, activate support based on conversation and explanation of what is happening when they are fail to be supported by your own self-confidence.
Outraged, it is important to recognize their progress (no matter their size) and pay less attention to mistakes or difficulties they show in an activity or behavior to act with punishment as a corrective or disciplinary measure.