Adolescence involves a series of life experiences that, for better or worse, affect the way young people interpret the world, interpret themselves, and develop styles of behavioral and emotional management.
Some open the door to very enriching experiences that allow them to develop their individuality to another level (for example, taking on more responsibility and learning on their own about subjects that they may already be starting to understand well), but others make adolescents more prone to development. certain problematic psychological patterns concerning their coexistence with the rest of the family and the parenting strategies of the parents.
This is why many parents find that after several years of believing that they know their son or daughter well, more or less when they reach puberty, they become relatively different in a relatively short time; someone whose education brings new and difficult challenges to overcome. In this article we will review the most relevant complications in this regard, behavior problems that often appear in adolescence, and we will see some tips to bring them the best possible solution.
What are the main behavioral problems that arise in adolescence?
Adolescence is one of the most studied stages of human development in the field of psychology because of the large number of physical, cognitive and emotional changes that occur there and the importance it has in the phase adult.
In this sense, there are several psychological problems characteristic of adolescence; it is clear that each person is different and we do not always have the same kind of experiences, however there are general trends regarding the most common behavior problems that arise during this period. Let’s see which are the most important, as well as various tips and strategies to solve them from home education and family coexistence.
1. Reckless driving
In adolescence, it is relatively common for a person to engage in a series of reckless behaviors that threaten not only their own safety but also that of those around them.
This recklessness is explained by the different way of seeing reality that adolescents have, and generally have to do with the search for social approval and the dynamic of competition to attract the attention of young people of the same age or a little older. They are more common in men than in women, and can be seen as a way to assert the value of rebellion and courage at a stage of life characterized by the pursuit of individuality and questioning of norms. “Formal”.
On the other hand, adolescents in general they do not have enough experience to make judicious judgments about the risks of the world around them, as well as the dangers to which they expose themselves by committing recklessness linked, for example, to risky sports, fights, drug consumption or even “games” designed specifically to see who dares to expose themselves the most. injuries or accidents.
From the point of view of families, a generally effective strategy is, in addition to putting very strict rules at home (this does not prevent them from committing recklessness outside the domestic context and from getting used to fleeing the police environment. that reigns in is to provide them with references that they can respect and instill in them the value of self-care and prudence: fictional characters or young influencers who set a good example and in which they can be reflected .
2. Outbursts of anger
Aggressive behavior is also common among many adolescents, which facilitates many frequent fights and discussions between people of the same age or even with older people. It is the result of a lack of skills to manage emotions and channel anger in a constructive way. and oriented towards finding concrete solutions.
Aggression can be facilitated by a variety of factors, from age-specific physiological and hormonal changes to personal frustration with schoolwork stress, dissatisfaction with one’s own body (which changes rapidly and sometimes in ways ” disorderly “) the feeling of incomprehension in front of people of other generations, etc.
When faced with such problems, it is good that as parents we teach them to express their dissatisfaction through constructive discussions. that they don’t just externalize the frustration and nothing more. For example, criticizing actions they find boring in place of the people who perform them, giving examples of what they would like and dislike, show them that if they don’t communicate well to the people around them. them cannot guess what they want, and most importantly, recognize and appreciate the progress they are making in dealing with these kinds of emotions.
3. Avoidance of responsibilities
Another of the most common behavioral problems associated with adolescence is avoidance of all kinds of responsibilities inherent to his ageeither for fear of not knowing how to carry them out and of failing, or simply for lack of interest or concern.
Stepping away from any activity that tests performance can also be a sign that the teen is feeling disoriented between childhood and adulthood. This is why it is important to accompany them so that from our instructions and our examples, they can learn new household chores or even take care of their brothers and sisters.
But the important thing is not to show them the “instructions” on what to do to make their job easier; is to show them that acquiring responsibility is the path to psychological maturation, and this is reflected in the kind of respect we show them.: Boys and girls who are able to take on new roles that bring them closer to adulthood are also increasingly treated as young adults, which most adolescents appreciate very much.
5. Too erratic behavior
Erratic and inconsistent behavior is one of the classic characteristics of adolescence, and this explains why the person tries to create their own personality and at the same time to cope with disorientation and disorientation. the lack of references experienced by many young people. It is therefore not uncommon for them to behave as if they were the characters in a work of fiction from one week to the next, which limits their freedom and confuses their families.
These changes in behavior and the constant development of the adolescent’s daily life often cause confusion or discomfort for parents and may in the long run lead to discussions or conflicts between parents and children.
To help them with this type of phenomenon, it is good that as parents we help them become aware of the elements of their identity, by expressing what we think is their way of behaving, by developing hobbies, by relating it all, referring to actions and trying to avoid putting “labels” on them. This way, a more complete and nuanced self-concept will be generated in his mind and they won’t feel the need to go for a walk to see what kind of behavior gives them more approval or more attention as they want.
6. Generational conflict
Conflict between parents and adolescents is a classic at this stage of human development and usually arises because the adolescent builds his own personality outside of the parents and generally adopts the attitude of going systematically against them. , because associates the figure of the elderly with a whole system of restrictions that limit their freedom.
At the same time, it is common for the teenager to think that personal conflicts and ego struggles are possible, as he still does not know how to deal with disagreements or how to properly regulate his emotions.
Faced with such problems, the most useful tool is assertive communication: to show you that it is possible to show disagreement with empathy and at the same time without biting your tongue, and always with respect. This will allow you to better understand the thinking of previous generations and disagree with some of their ideas, but understand them as they are and without interpreting them through caricatures.
7. Challenge to authority figures
In addition to challenging parents, teens tend to challenge any other form of authority that stands in their way, whether it is teachers, other family members, and even the police.
This phenomenon it allows in certain adolescents the appearance of behaviors contrary to the fundamental standards of coexistence and civility, truancy and even criminal activity.
This is one of the most complex issues to deal with, which is why, in general, families are recommended to turn to psychologists who are experts in child and adolescent therapy to prevent these problems. dynamics hamper their children’s development and lead them to fail at school. .
8. Social isolation
During adolescence, it is common for certain self-esteem issues to dramatically affect a person’s mood.
This phenomenon, associated with the fear of rejection or failure that most adolescents experience, it can facilitate a tendency to isolate oneself socially and locked themselves away for a long time.
Faced with this, families can, in addition to going to the psychologist (because this type of problem causes a lot of discomfort in young people), do everything so that the boy or the girl can meet other young people of his age. with similar hobbies; there is no reason for him to limit social life at school.
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