Alcohol is the most consumed and standardized legal drug in the world. It’s been culturally embedded in society for thousands of years, it’s part of how many people understand socializing and life in general.
But alcohol is a drug, and it is the one that does the most harm to people who use it and to those around them.
7 tips for getting sober
More and more people are realizing they need to stop drinking and abstainturn your life into sobriety.
But quitting alcohol is not easy, because we live in a very alcoholic society, in which the habitual and extreme consumption of alcohol is normalized. People who get drunk and drink alcohol as a way of life (and are likely to suffer from addiction or alcoholism) are socially applauded, while people who choose to drink water at a dinner party with friends are often penalized, considered rare creatures. .
In this article, I will give you 7 Tips to help you quit alcohol for good and start enjoying a sober life.
1. Don’t wait for it to hit rock bottom
Unfortunately, the world is full of people who don’t change until they are forced to. Most people who decide to quit alcohol completely already suffer from health problems resulting from habitual (or extreme) alcohol consumption, or because they have reached the point of alcoholism.
Overcoming alcoholism is possible, but difficult, and It’s much easier (and wiser) to decide to quit alcohol on our own before we go to extremes..
Many people make the decision to stop drinking when their doctor diagnoses them with an illness (cirrhosis, colon cancer, heart disease, etc.), when they have a serious impaired driving accident, or because their partner issues an ultimatum and tells them that if they don’t give up the booze, their relationship will be over.
It’s better to stop drinking before we have to because we have no choice. Also, quitting alcohol is much easier when you haven’t developed an addiction or a heavy addiction, so the sooner the better.
2. Make a firm decision to stop drinking
Think about the damage that alcohol has done to you throughout your life. The hangover, the ridicule, the health problems, the risk of an accident, all the money spent, damage to your relationships, your self-esteem, your anxiety…
And then imagine what your life will be like in 10 years if you stop drinking now, how you will feel, all the vitality and energy, your health, and how happy you will be for having made such a brave decision now (when you can still choose).
Then make a firm decision that marks a before and after. It begins to define you as a clean personlike not drinking alcohol is part of your identity and something you don’t need in your life.
3. Understand why you drink alcohol
People use drugs as avenues of escape from reality, as ways to hide unpleasant emotions, discomfort, and to forget difficult problems or situations.
Alcohol only temporarily hides problems, and also has a second effect. It makes the person less and less able to cope with the pain and discomfort of everyday life as they become dependent on alcohol.
If you want to stop drinking forever, it is essential that you understand why you drink, how you use it on a daily basis, what unpleasant or painful emotions you run away from on a daily basiswhat insecurities you’re trying to cover, the void you’re trying to fill…
Alcohol (like the use of any other drug) occupies a place in a person’s life, because most people get used to drinking alcohol from adolescence, to feel stronger, more in security, more interesting or daring.
We need to understand the insecurities that make us crave alcohol. If we understand our relationship with alcohol, it will be much easier for us to give up alcohol and make changes in our personal world so that we never need alcohol again.
4. Stay away from your drinking partners
Most people who drink heavily have had an environment that reinforced their drinking behavior. Relatives, friends or partners who frequently abuse alcohol as a way of life, whose leisure plans revolve around alcohol or drunkenness.
Many people I’ve worked with in therapy have told me that they’ve realized that many of their friendships are toxic, in the sense that they’re just an excuse to drink, and that if they don’t there was no alcohol involved, no, they could share anything.
Filter your friendships, recognize that they are not real friendships and only revolve around alcohol, and put a good distance. Otherwise, they will sooner or later become sources of relapse, because these people will continue to reinforce in your mind the message that “alcohol is not so bad and I need it to feel good.”
5. Resume your healthy hobbies
Quitting alcohol is not easy, and alcohol has played a role in a person’s life. that’s why the void left by alcohol must be filled by other alternative activitiespleasant and satisfying pleasures and experiences, which are also incompatible with the consumption of alcohol (i.e. which are healthy).
Exercise again, enjoy nature, spend more time with our loved ones, or start projects that excite us and make us want to get up in the morning. When we strengthen our pillars of well-being, it is harder for bad habits to take hold..
Because they will make us feel good about ourselves, and we will lose the need to use alcohol to deal with our problems.
6. Strengthen your social support system
Spend more time with people who love and support you, as well as people whose lives don’t revolve around alcohol. Some people find this social support in groups that support each other against alcoholism. And it’s true that these groups help a lot of people, but they’re not for everyone. You may also receive this support from your family, partner or other friends who do not abuse alcohol or who have also decided to abstain.
7. Seek help from an addiction psychologist
Quitting drinking is not easy, because for this we have to fight against many conditions of our upbringing and the influence of a society that normalizes and idealizes the consumption of alcohol. Plus, alcohol is an addictive substance, which only makes things harder.
If you find it difficult to follow, do not wait, contact a professional.
My name is Luis Miguel RealI am a psychologist specializing in addiction.
I’ve been helping people enjoy life drug free for years. If you need it, I can help you quit drinking and get sober. Contact me and we’ll get to work as soon as possible.