Substance-free addictions: uncontrolled compulsive behaviors

Let’s talk about four human behaviors that, when they get out of hand, can become real addiction problems even if they are not technically substances.

The game, a game that is not a game

Linked to fun and recreation, bingo or the casino can provide all the condiments needed for an unforgettable evening: great food, music, drinks, fun. too much it can be unforgettable if you can’t stop playing, If the salary is “invested”, it is demanded and ten dollars the car is sold, among other unimaginable things …

We will talk about gambling addiction if gambling gets out of hand, gets compulsive, out of control, in hopeless cases where degradations do not appear only from an economic point of view, Otherwise at the family, professional, personal level. It is one of the most common non-substance addictions in Western countries.

Any excuse is valid to replay

If you win, motivation invades and you will replay to increase the gain. “I’m lucky today.” If he loses, he will replay to find the lost, to boost morale or try to escape the negative consequences of losing. “If I get back what I lost, no one will find out what I lost, they won’t even know I came.”

For the immediate environment, when he notices the problem, bingo becomes a forbidden place for the player, which means that he will have to hide whenever he assists, lies or seeks excuses to go to bingo.

It is always dark

Bingo’s architecture, windowless and strategically thought out, makes it impossible to discover when it ceases to be at night and begins to rise, which eases the constraint and the absence of boundaries. Losing track of time is a key part of gambling addiction. As well as the false belief that a player can choose when to go to bingo and when to go, as if he could handle it.

If there is addiction, it will be very difficult to control the frequency and duration of the stay in bingo. It is therefore a behavior that requires a lot of attention. If gambling stops being enjoyable and begins to be compulsive, necessary, and problematic, it is no longer gambling.

Addictions to people

Dependence on a person, or also known as codependency, Can be as problematic as other dependencies. It can lead to isolation, family, social life, deterioration of work, low self-esteem and even depression and death. To feel that you live for and for the other, that the reason for your life is this person, that if you are not at all, that makes sense. Being dependent on another person negates their ability to feel that you cannot experience or achieve anything in life.

Self-esteem is governed by what others express about oneself. They think they deserve little or nothing, they prioritize the other and may end up doing what they don’t want to please or not to lose the other person.

The relationship with the dependent person has twists and turns, where the return to the link is what prevails. Co-addicts come back again and again, over the years, as if the unhealthy relationship is stronger than them, where personal relationships are put aside and there are always opportunities to reunite.

Living at work, work addiction

Something as necessary as the job is rewarding and organizing the personality, can become a problem. It happens when a person spends most of the day, and sometimes the night, dealing with matters of work, do not allow other activities or rest.

There are several causal factors of a work addiction: excessive self-demand, low self-esteem, feelings of inferiority, obsession, pathological ambition. And the consequences will also be varied. As in any addiction, there will be consequences in terms of health, family and sociability: Physical exhaustion, stress, anxiety; isolation, discussions, complaints, pressures.

What do you buy buy? compulsive consumerism

At the moment shopping and consumerism are part of our western society, they are almost necessary for a living. We consume food, clothing, appliances, entertainment, etc. But when buying becomes uncontrolled and compulsive behavior, we are talking about something else.

When we buy calm, relief, or relief, we need to ask ourselves what calms us. What keeps us away? In short, What do we avoid when we compulsively buy?

Spend large sums of money, far from generating bonuses to acquire the market, it can cause impotence, anxiety and restlessness. This can lead to borrowing and continuing to buy. The purchase is not happy, it is not a fun time, or it is, but then it is followed by a feeling of emptiness, of frustration because the material purchased does not completely fill or remove not completely the inconvenience that hurts us. This, which is before the purchase, is what we must reveal, because the purchase in itself is not bad, the bad thing is that it is compulsive and as a resource to cover or calm some other need.

Taking up the title of this segment, those who buy compulsively buy relief, escape, momentary tranquility. And, depending on the case, you can buy a place in the family, a corresponding love, a feeling of success and prestige; buy self-esteem, buy feeling precious and important. The metaphor here is, when in reality I’m not accomplishing something or I’m frustrated with some part of the reality I’m experiencing or my place in society, in my head when I buy replaces what is not material that I feel I don’t have. And that relieves, because when I buy, I forget what causes me so much discomfort.

We emphasize that buying is not a bad thing and is part of our way of life. It will be a problem if the need to buy something is systematically imposed. Life is organized around the purchase all the time and if the purchase cannot be made it is overcome with anxiety and frustration.

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