Bullying or school harassment is a widespread phenomenon in Spanish schools, Although many teachers and parents ignore the suffering of the victim until it is too late.
And it is that the verbal attacks and the psychological and even physical attacks which last in time and which seriously harm the person who undergoes them, do not always manifest themselves openly by this one, transforming this suffering into something of internal.
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Diego González, victim of bullying who decided to kill himself
The discomfort coexists with the person from the moment he gets up until he falls asleep and sometimes causes decisions as fatal as that of little Diego, a boy of only 11 who could not stand this ordeal anymore and decided to kill himself. Leave his parents and those who knew him marked forever.
In his farewell letter, Diego González tried to make his parents understand his situation, and asked them to “one day hate him a little less” for what he was doing, because “he could not stand going to school and that was the only way Not to go. ”Bullying is devastating for some people, and little Diego is one example.
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He couldn’t take the pain anymore
Diego’s case shocked Spanish society. The events took place on October 14, 2015, when the little boy, tired of being bullied at school, decided to throw himself into the void from the fifth floor of his family home in Leganés (Madrid).
According to Diego’s mother, Carmen González, In the newspaper El Mundo, when he realized that his son was not in the room, he started to worry and “look crazy all over the house”. Then he saw at the back of the kitchen, the screen open. He walked over and … enjoyed his shadow on the ground. Diego had thrown himself into the void because he could no longer live in this situation, he could not stand another day.
In the diary itself, Carmen explains that on the window sill of her house, through which her son threw himself into the void, he found a message that read: “Look at Lucho” (his doll). In him they found a notebook in which Diego counted the reasons that had taken to him to suicide.
The sad suicide note
In the following picture you can read the sad farewell letter by Diego González:
In the text, Diego makes it clear that he couldn’t stand the emotional pain the bullying was causing him and so he decided to kill himself. In the same vein, he asks his parents to forgive him one day and “to hate him a little less”. And he hopes that “they can meet in paradise.”
With this letter, the parents demanded the reopening of this controversial case and the Community of Madrid has indicated that it will reopen an administrative investigation with a new school inspector. The court also reopened the case to clarify the facts that led this minor to commit suicide.
No more cases of bullying at school
Diego’s case reminds us that bullying must be detected as early as possible to avoid major consequences.
But this young man is not the only case of bullying that ends in tragedy. In fact, on August 15, 2016, a 13-year-old American boy made the same decision as Diego, and his older sister found her lifeless body on the roof. Daniel fitzpatrick had suffered numerous episodes of bullying in Staten Island (New York, USA).
One of the first cases of suicide due to school bullying in Spain is that of young Jokin, who at the age of 14 decided to end his life after spending years suffering abuse and harassment in his school in the city of Hondarribia.
The psychological damage caused to people who are bullied can accompany them throughout their lives. A study by King’s College London (2014) indicates that the negative psychological effects suffered by those who are bullied may persist for 40 years after to have been the victim of intimidation and intimidation. This highlights the seriousness of the psychological and emotional consequences on the victims of this phenomenon.
Some psychological consequences of bullying are:
- somatic disorders
- Socialization issues
Causes of bullying at school
There are many causes (personal, family, or school) that can cause a bully to engage in this type of violence against their classmates. Research seems to indicate that there may be an increased risk of bullying in large schools, due to the difficulties of supervision.
Personal factors can also lead to cases of bullying, as the bully’s low self-esteem can lead the bully to want to feel superior to the bully. Finally, family role models influence the behavior of bullies, as bullies who have lived with an aggressive parenting role are more likely to engage in this type of violence.
The success of the Kiva program to end bullying in schools
When we hear about these suicide bullying cases, we often ask ourselves, “Are things being done right to prevent this kind of thing from happening in schools? Unfortunately, not all schools have the same policies on how to prevent this happening in schools? prevent bullying. However, most Spanish schools should adopt the KiVA program, A method which is successfully applied in Finland.
In this country, the program is implemented in 90% of basic education schools and its success is such that it has become an indispensable tool assess and eradicate bullying in schools.
To learn more about the Kiva program, see our article: “The Kiva Method, An Idea That Ends Bullying”