Mothers are, along with our fathers, the most important characters in our life. They are the ones who gave us life and who raised us when we couldn’t even feed ourselves.
Thanks to mothers, we have grown and developed. This is why this article is dedicated to them.
The mother-son relationship: unconditional love
Can the task of being a mother be exhausting. It is a 24 hour job in which, especially in the early years, he consumes all the time that a mother can have. Mothers go through the first stages of their children’s lives together, and the affection that begins at the start of this relationship lasts forever.
But what is it about the tilt? Well, nothing more than the emotional and affective bonds that are created in interpersonal relationships. And mothers, of course, are the main protagonists of this beautiful relationship.
The theory of tilt: what is it?
The theory of conditions is a theory that made John Bowlby popularAs he believed that the condition begins in childhood and continues throughout life, and stated that there are behavioral control systems which are innate and which are necessary for the survival and procreation of human beings . Mothers, of course, are the main protagonists for a child to develop what is considered to be the healthiest form of affection: “safe affection”.
If you’ve been a mom, you’ve already noticed that from an early age, children have an innate behavior that leads them to want to explore new thingsThey are like mini explorers. Now, when they think they are in danger, they quickly run into your arms in search of protection.
The mothers are always there and the little ones know it. Just like you knew yours from yours. As you can see, without mothers we would be lost in this world, because it depends on them that we do not develop behaviors that harm our emotional health in the future.
- To learn more about this theory, we invite you to read our article: “The theory of the link and the link between parents and children”
The importance of maternal function
From birth, the mother is there, and his son becomes familiar with his voice, with his presence. The mother becomes responsible for the maternal function in the early stages of life, that is, the desire to provide physical and emotional nourishment to children. But at an early age, the role of the mother not only refers to the satisfaction of physical needs such as food, but she is responsible for providing mild or positive emotional stimuli. Studies show that children deprived of these emotional stimuli often die from an illness called hospitalism.
Positive affective stimuli are those innate stimuli that arose out of the desire to love this new creature, for example, the soft, gentle tone of the voice, the smiles, the hugs and hugs, and the gaze.
- You can find out more about this subject in the article: “The look of a mother and the maternal function:” I am looked at, therefore I exist “”
Mothers are for good and for bad
However, the development of a child lasts a lifetime, but until adolescence, the maternal figure is of great importance for offspring. The mother was responsible for educating a child (along with other educational agents of course), for example, in values. However, it can also be a bad influence on your child if they don’t do things right.
Some mothers, either intentionally or unintentionally, engage in a variety of toxic behaviors that, in the long run, can adversely affect the emotional health of their offspring. Toxic mothers can engage in certain harmful behaviors, such as the following:
- They are fixated on gender roles and adopt a submissive attitude towards men
- They are very conservative
- They have a dominant personality
- They don’t trust their children’s attitude
- They have a passive-aggressive attitude
- They feel indifferent or too permissive
- They are not very affectionate
- They are too critical
- They project their failures into the lives of their children
- They are uncommunicative
- They don’t teach them healthy habits
You can explore these negative mothers’ behaviors in our article: “Toxic Mothers: These 12 Characteristics Make Them Unbearable”
What every mother should know
Fortunately, the vast majority of mothers feel this unconditional love for the children they had spoken about earlier.
If you are going to be a mother for the first time, you will be interested to know the 25 points below, because it is a great experience, but it can be complicated and exhausting at times:
- You will develop a super skill or the seventh sense of getting up in the middle of the night.
- You will become a researcher because you will be interested in knowing everything about your child: what to eat, what to do, etc. This is surely what brought you to this article …
- You will try to remember what you did in your free time.
- You will become a great critic … with yourself.
- You worry about what you and your children are eating.
- You will sacrifice yourself for him.
- You will discover a new form of love: maternal love.
- You will be at the limit of your emotional capacity.
- You will learn to appreciate what it is like to sleep.
- And you will learn to sleep during your child’s sleeping hours.
- You will develop eyes behind your head.
- You will realize that you didn’t know anything about life.
- When your first child is born … you could be suffering from postpartum depression.
- You will ask your parents (their grandparents) for help.
- You will think the silence is suspect.
- You will learn how to care for pupae with kisses.
- You will become an expert layer.
- You will be an expert in the sport of saving your child from falls.
- You will realize that every child is a world (only when you have your second child).
- You will learn a new language. For example, “aga”, for water.
- You will know what stress really is.
- And while it might cost you money, you’ll learn to let your dad do things his way because you’ll stress less.
- You will enjoy every moment that you can use with two hands.
- You will get used to living with the things that disgusted you: spitting, vomiting, excrement …
- You will become a child again. For example, when you have to play with your child or watch TV with him.