The arrival in the world of a child is a moment full of joy and happiness, tenderness, many and intense emotions. It comes with more responsibility, because a child comes into the world helpless and totally dependent twenty hours a day.
Being a parent means that life changes completely and along with the myriad joys of having a child, there are many insecurities that arise, such as fears about the ability to be good caregivers, comparisons with other parents. , etc. All this combined with stressful situations such as not knowing what is happening to them (especially at the very beginning when they still cannot speak), schedule changes, lack of sleep …
These situations, as well as the insecurities described, can lead to parental limitations and make the stress they are under seriously affect their emotional stability and its performance in any activity.
The importance of stress management in fatherhood and motherhood
While there are many help books and tutorials out there on parenting and how to deal with this moment, the reality is that when a parent holds their baby in their arms, anything they read can help, but this will not be an instruction manual with all the answers. .
There are constant worries for our child, physical and mental fatigue, Lack of couple time, reduced leisure time, etc. There are many changes almost immediately which, if we don’t learn how to cope, can lead to many stress issues.
Therefore, it is important to keep in mind a number of recommendations, which can help us get through this moment of happiness and uncertainty at the same time.
1. Express the emotions and thoughts that generate this stress
Being exposed to comparison and social judgment causes a lot of suffering in parents with doubts, with fears, because they do not dare to expose themselves to the world.
Trust your family, your partner, your relatives who have children, your friends, In trustworthy people with whom you are not afraid of this judgment and can express yourself freely.
2. Try to rest
Especially at the very beginning of babies, adult sleep will be altered and reduced. This causes irritability, due to fatigue and increased activity. It is important to rest during the hours when you fall asleep, So that sleep is as restful as possible.
3. Take care of your food
Baby food and safety are a priority. However, many parents tend to eat just anything and usually not in the amounts they need. This is why it is important to be careful about what you are going to eat; it is not about making very elaborate recipes, it is about providing healthy food.
4. Incorporate a physical activity that you enjoy
The release of dopamine during any sporting activity it will help balance stress levels.
Since you have much less time, you can combine, for example, half an hour of aerobic exercise away from home with some activities that can be done at home.
5. Time for you
If you feel good, your baby will feel it. Spending time won’t make you a worse father, and you won’t be selfish.
You have to be good to be able to deal with the frustrations that can arise in this time of constant change. It’s important to find a time for yourself, to do something you love, a reward.
6. Don’t compare yourself
Don’t try to be the best, Because we hear you say that there are no instructions for the best parent. Focus on your child, not on what other parents are doing.
It’s about being the best you can be for your baby and accepting that that doesn’t mean being perfect, which is a learning process that you can enjoy as well.
7. Return to a state of calm when you get tired.
The practice of mindfulness or mindfulness is a great help for the “autopilot” and be more aware of all that fatherhood generates in us.
With this practice, in addition to improving your well-being, you will be able to be more attentive, better navigate your emotions, avoid impulsive and uncontrolled reactions, and learn to be flexible and to be a parent who values compassion and emotion. . connection.
8. Psychological support
If you’ve never had therapy before, having a baby is a good time to meet some needs.
Going to the psychologist helps to see what burdens we have that we don’t want to pass on to our children, what we want to stay in us, what we need to fix and what we want to let go. Our child will benefit from the work we do because we will not be conditioned by our past; it will be a new experience, a relationship that is built from another foundation.
Mindfulness workshop for parents at Cepsim Madrid
At the Cepsim Psychological Center, we organized a training workshop on mindfulness for parents who will help you in your fatherhood or motherhood. It will be held on March 2.
As motherhood and fatherhood carry countless responsibilities, it is necessary to adapt quickly to daily life. In addition, as the baby grows, he needs a change; it is an evolutionary process of change that can wear us out, and through this course you will learn tools to deal with all that anxiety and enjoy. This course at the Cepsim Psychological Center is suitable for people who have recently been parents or are planning to become one.
Through the practice of mindfulness, you will learn to educate responsibly. As we have said before, it is not about being the best, but about being aware of how we are educated and where we are doing it, whether from our experience, from momentary fatigue, or the ability to think and stop. All this while paying attention to what is happening to our child, why it is happening to him and how we can help him.
You can discover our mindfulness workshops on our website www.psicologiamadrid.es.
Psychological support for pregnant women and first parents
In addition, from the Cepsim Psychological Center, we offer psychological support to pregnant women, as well as to young parents, to cope with stress and problems that can lead to this stage of life.