The fear of saying “no” and setting limits is one of the great difficulties and learnings that we encounter in relation to our personal development, whether in personal, sentimental or professional intrigue.
What does it take not to say “no” or to draw clear lines between what you want and what you don’t want, between what you can and cannot do, and also between what you know and what you don’t want? you do not know ? And above all, how to overcome this difficulty?
Problems when it comes to saying “no” in the workplace
One of the first words humans learn is “no”. This word is sometimes associated with a negative meaning, but in fact setting limits is an essential condition in your life for achieving well-being. The “no” helps us to set limits, to know ourselves, to build a strong personality where we know what we want., What we cannot, what we can do, where we need more help or directly what we cannot do (limits are also necessary for personal development).
One of the most common problems today is that growing as a person or a professional is about pushing your limits.. But we are human beings, and having borders is part of our humanity and our nature. It is best to be aware of these limitations. However, if the rest of the world ignores your boundaries because you don’t communicate them, where does that get you?
On the personal plot, not saying no or communicating your limits makes you feel that you are not living your own life, but that your life is conditioned by the decisions of others. Not setting clear boundaries, expressing what you think, feel and what you really need, and what you don’t want, leads you first to a state of frustration, then helplessness and finally discouragement.
In the professional plot, everything can be further intensified. By not making decisions, we end up feeling more and more insecure and low in self-esteem. By not saying no, it may be possible to accumulate work that is not ours, which leads to more stress, anxiety, fatigue and therefore discouragement and demotivation at work (Sometimes even scared).
Work can be an experience of success, learning and well-being or a heavy daily burden. It all depends on how you communicate your limits. Sometimes don’t set too many limits it implies that others may cross the line and cause discomfort.
In this video, I will explain what is the main source of the say no problem and the limitations and how you can start to solve it. Give it a game!
The importance of setting clear limits
Saying “no”, communicating boundaries, or communicating confidently is actually very simple. The problem is what’s stopping you. What keeps us from confidently communicating and setting limits is fear above all else..
We are afraid of the answer, afraid of lack of acceptance and appreciation, afraid of risk, afraid of losing. But fear is not the problem (because it is a useful and necessary emotion to protect your life) but how you understand and deal with your fears and emotions.
Over the past 10 years, I have accompanied people as psychologists and coaches in their personal and professional change processes, and in the vast majority of cases there was a fear of saying ‘no’ that needed to be addressed. . When you experience a process of change and the change occurs within you, starting to set limits begins to become more and more of a habit.. Work decreases, it gets organized, personal relationships improve, you get to know yourself better, and you begin to feel that work is a lighter experience.
Of course, assertive communication is not about saying “no”, it is much more than that. It is to communicate in an essential way. That is, the truth, what you think, what you feel and what you need, and also what you cannot or do not want to do.
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In empoderamientohumano.com you can find free resources to start living this process of change, such as the Emociona’t program, or even plan a free first exploratory session with me to meet us, detect where the problem is, what may be the solution, and first of all to see how I can accompany you in this process of change so that, thanks to your own personal change, everything else changes forever.
What happens to us is the result of what we do, how we interpret it, and how we deal with the emotions we feel. That is why the only possible change is what is given to you. Because of you actions change, interpretations and above all you learn to have the emotions on your side rather than against you.