Aggression is one of the aspects that most affects social relationships. Most individual therapy or couples therapy sessions are for patients who are having difficulty managing their anger.
In this article we will see what are the typical characteristics of aggressive people; different patterns of behavior associated with hostility, continued confrontation with others, or a mere taste for bullying and physical or verbal violence. Of course, it should not be forgotten that not all aggressive individuals have to present them all and that each person is an individual case; these are ideas to guide you in detecting this type of behavior problem.
Aggressive people: typical characteristics
In psychotherapy, the signs of a problem with excessive aggression are as follows.
1. They have difficulty convincing in debates and discussions
Almost every time someone with an aggressive tendency participates in a discussion where you have to try to convince others, they have a hard time getting their ideas accepted.
This is so because, seeing that others do not agree with what he is saying, difficulties arise when it comes to suppressing his anger and frustration. This irritability not only it prevents him from thinking in the calm and rational way necessary to argue well; moreover, it makes him more disagreeable in the eyes of others, in the face of those who present a negative and hostile image.
All of this makes aggressive people more likely to “lose” an argument or only seemingly win it through intimidation, rather than genuinely convincing the rest.
2. In relationships, they are controllers
Another very common characteristic in aggressive people is the propensity to try to control their loving partners, as well as the way they easily express their jealousy, In a wide variety of situations and faced with the slightest trace of uncertainty and ambiguity about what is happening.
3. They tend to see jokes as a threat
Often times, jokes that other people make can be interpreted as offending a person predisposed to seeing clues in sentences that do not have a clear meaning. This is something that often happens to aggressive people, who they put themselves on the defensive in case they have to assert themselves in the face of teasing which, in practice, has hardly ever existed.
4. It is difficult for them to apologize
Another thing that catches the attention of many aggressive people is that it is difficult for them to apologize in a convincing way. They often apologize “technically”, but with a tone of voice and non-verbal language that makes it clear that, for them, this is just a pantomime.
This resistance to excuses may be due to the fact that the tendency to aggressive reactions would involve have to apologize very oftenWhat a priori is difficult to accept if there is no real involvement in the process of personal progress and overcoming this hostile attitude.
5. Blame others for their mistakes
One of the reasons aggressive people get angry is because, without realizing it, they invent many reasons to get angry. This is because they attribute a lot of their mistakes to others, showing that if something went wrong they are to blame for others who actually have nothing to do with what went wrong.
In fact, it can lead to gas ignition situations: trying to make others believe that they have done things that are not right so that they do not have to take responsibility for what is wrong. has passed.
6. They are impulsive in decision making
The impulsiveness they show in (poor) anger management is also present in other areas of their life. So, for example, it is easier for aggressive people to have a buying style based on improvisation.
7. They are more likely to abuse addictive substances
People with addictions are more vulnerable to addictions, to which they give in easily. In fact, addictions often exacerbate their anger management, making them more aggressive. For example, we know that among people who abuse their partner, the percentage of people addicted to alcohol or another drug is much higher than in the rest of the population.
8. Easily break your friendships
Due to their rapid mood swings and tendency to create discussions out of nowhere, aggressive people find it difficult to maintain friendships. This is why, among other things, they do not invest a lot of effort in what they have.
9. They show resentment for past conflicts
Because of their tendency to focus their attention on the crueler, more hostile side of life, aggressive people they keep in mind who opposed this at some point in the past, And this is reflected in the attitude they show towards them.
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