When we relate to others, we have to enter into a kind of tension game in which we have to adapt the perspective of ourselves, on the one hand, and that of others, on the other. And it is not always easy because each individual has a number of characteristics, beliefs and ways of acting.
Arrogant people are those who ignore the point of view of othersAnd this is noticeable both in their social life and in the discomfort they cause in others. How to recognize them?
Characteristics of arrogant people
When it comes to detecting signals that help us determine whether or not we are dealing with an arrogant person, these traits can serve as a guide, even if each individual is a world.
1. They treat those who are not there with contempt
Arrogant people have a particular tendency to take credit for what others do and to criticize. it is a way to try to acquire “social value” relatively easily and simple, but also cruel and deceptive, since the other is not there to defend himself and the fact of bringing to light his supposed imperfections creates the illusion that the one who speaks about them does not have this class of defects.
2. They don’t pay attention to other people’s opinions
There is only one case in which particularly arrogant people think about how others react to what they say: if a clear rejection or disagreement is manifested. Otherwise, the most common is react very little to the opinions and views of others.
3. Show yourself for free
Another type of behavior typical of arrogant people is appeal to their merits or privileges very easily, Although the course of the conversation does not require it, because the problems associated with them are not addressed.
This is, in short, another one of those ways that people with these propensities try to gain prominence in their social life. In extreme cases, it is even possible to lie clearly, or to oversize their exploits no longer showing their flaws or imperfections.
4. They are cruel to the shy ones
It is a way of creating a certain territoriality, by showing everyone that there are not too many disadvantages when it comes to putting another person in a situation of vulnerability, even humiliating him, sometimes. for no clear reason. In this way, it is to establish the idea that it is better to treat these arrogant people with deference.
It’s a kind of blackmail: The importance given to them comes because this type of treatment is imposed, not because they have really gained a leadership position or something like that.
How to treat them?
When you interact with arrogant people, and taking for granted that your goal is not to get involved in them to make them change for the better (something that takes time, effort, and preparation that everyone else does. ‘is not willing to put it on the table) but to make the dialogue as smooth and trouble-free as possible, you can follow these tips.
1. Do not display the submission
Arrogant people tend to take advantage of the way others submit to them, which is relatively common due to the arrogant attitude of the former. There are those who, automatically, spontaneously and semi-unconsciously, are carried away by this dynamic of domination that the arrogant imposes in a conversation, and from the point of view of the party who “leads” this dialogue, this makes it possible to do so. ‘exploit this situation to their own advantage.
So, it is important to be respected and to speak confidently, without giving up your own opinions and interests, even if it means the opposite.
2. Avoid drama
A common thing of arrogant people is to create a narrative framework (i.e. a context of communication in which to interpret some things and not others) in which any attempt to bring them the opposite is seen as a departure from the tone, an eccentricity. In this way, for example, by not treating them with deference or granting them special privilegesThey react as if we have said something ridiculous, even sometimes with a little paternalism and condescension.
In the face of this, which can even be considered a form of gas lighting, one must stand firm. The criterion that one uses to relate to others is as valid as that of anyone else. The dialogue should be brought back to its normal course, without showing that we are trying to compensate for a fault.
3. Go to gra
The best thing to counter this pseudo-importance that the other gives himself, it is better not to concede. He treats her just like anyone else, but shows no surprise at his attempts to show off in a dramatic way.
Maintaining a neutral and polite but assertive attitude is always good in these cases, and if you feel the conversation is going the wrong way, it is best to leave cordially.
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