the authoritarianism it is more than a form of government in which one person or a privileged few. Authoritarian people also exist; they are those who, consciously or unconsciously, tend to reproduce behaviors in which their own judgment consists in imposing that of others without worrying about justifying why they must be obeyed.
Identifying authoritative individuals is relevant both outside and within psychological intervention. In the latter case, do it it allows to establish a channel of communication with them and to see together how they could correct this type of trend.
How to recognize bossy people
The way that authoritarian people try to hold power and direct the decisions and actions of others can go unnoticed on many occasions. After all, many of them have no way of directly imposing their will by forceSo they try to influence others in more subtle and more subtle ways, often without having to realize how dangerous their behavior is.
However, it is worth keeping in mind the characteristics of bossy people, both to identify them in other people who might be a bad influence and to examine the possibility that we adapt, even partially, to some of these. descriptions.
Let’s see what these basic traits of authoritarian people are.
1. The belief that we are right “by default”
A person’s tendency towards authoritarianism can detect whether that person declares directly or indirectly that in the absence of proof to the contrary, it is she who is right on all subjects in general.
The belief that it is oneself who is best able to decide how things should be and how others should be, coupled with associations and learnings in the past in which this type of attitude has been rewarded, is the basis of this style of behavior. .
2. Leadership is not in question
Authoritarian people consider it a personal matter, an offense to question their own leadership. This is so because assuming it as a core belief that one commands and others obey, leadership itself is seen as something natural, that is, it is normalizedAs it was centuries ago, the ruling power of kings and queens was not in question and was valid in itself.
To doubt that others are to be carried away by one’s own instructions is seen as a transgression or something that has to be very well justified to be accepted as an exceptional fact.
3.Underestimate the work and skills of others
Because the belief that oneself has a special and “privileged” criterion for deciding what to do, it is necessary to maintain the illusion that the merits of the rest of the people are not so much. In other words, to avoid the cognitive dissonance of seeing that other people may be as or more capable than oneself of deciding and acting correctly, one must interpret their successes as the fruit of luck or interpret them as partial successes.
For example, if a person graduates from college in the shortest possible time, a markedly authoritarian person may resort to the discourse they know best about the world outside the classroom, which implies that they are always in touch. able to teach each other on issues. linked to his career.
4. Brag about your own merits
For the same reason that they tend to underestimate the merits and abilities of others, bossy people are particularly inclined to make their successes visible and turn attention to them. In this way, they themselves will keep in mind these superficial justifications of why one has authority, and at the same time draw the attention of others to these more or less exaggerated merits.
However, in cases where authoritarian people can exercise power without needing to seek out even these minimal justifications, this characteristic may not be present. This happens, for example, when someone has the material ability to bend others to their will, either to have greater physical strength or to have a socioeconomic status that can be used to harm others.
5. Constant demands
Bossy people not only use this facility to manipulate others just to achieve certain goals, but on many occasions. they end up sinking into a dynamic in which many things and of all kinds begin to be demanded of others. This is so because learning to be bossy can be helpful in the short term.
6. Tendency to aggression
Asking a lot of others leads to situations of conflict and dissatisfaction, and it is this type of phase that authoritarian peoples respond vigorously to punish the other and that episodes of disobedience do not repeat.
These punishments do not necessarily have to be based on physical force, but can be expressed symbolically and verbally.
7. Authoritarianism in multiple contexts
Bossy people are not only in some contexts and not in others. As their behavior is based on learning that has been done in many types of situations, they will try to impose their point of view on all kinds of possible scenarios.
Changing bossy behavior
Let’s talk about authoritarian people that doesn’t mean these should always be like thisAs if this adjective were a label that defines the deepest part of his personality.
By unlearning certain relationship dynamics and learning more adaptive dynamics, it is possible to become more tolerant, and many forms of psychological intervention can be useful in providing tools for this change.